No matter how much we want to see and be in contact with our friends, sometimes we can’t. Sometimes life gets in our way and we don’t have time to talk and hang out as we used to.
As for me, I am lucky to have a friend who I know is always there for me. And even though we don’t get to see each other often, our friendship is still strong as it always has been. I want us to spend more time together, and I know she wants that too, but we don’t complain and we don’t take the silence personally.
Because adult friendships are about understanding and patience. They are about love, not about anger and resentment.
I really don’t have time for friends who keep score on who called first, or who get mad about me not contacting them when they thought it was appropriate. I barely have time to dedicate to the people I love the most, let alone waste it on high-maintenance friendships with people who are never satisfied with anything.
Those people have decided to leave me the moment I went silent. Instead of asking me whether I was okay, they concluded I was a bad friend for not reaching out to them and they decided to end the friendship. I then realized how precious it was to have friends who don’t take things personally.
For me, the friends who don’t stop loving us when we ‘go quiet’ are our true friends. At the end of the day, we are all humans and we all make mistakes. We are not perfect. We all deal with different things and face different problems. But having people who understand all of this and are still there for you and you for them – that’s golden.
I am lucky to have friends who are not judgmental. Friends who don’t let bitterness get bigger than the love that is between us. Friends who check-in instead of checking out.
We all need friends like that.
Share this post with your amazing and supportive friends and tell them how much you love them and how happy you are to have them in your life.