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Don’t Allow Anyone To Manipulate You Into Doing What They Want You To Do


There comes a time in every person’s life when their friend, co-worker, family member, or romantic partner starts manipulating them to control their actions. Don’t allow that to happen.

1. Identify The Form Of Manipulation And Address It

The first step to dealing with a manipulator effectively is learning how to recognize when someone is manipulating you. There are many forms of manipulation and you should be aware of them in order to protect yourself. Some of them include putting themselves and their needs first, expecting you to be there for them whenever they need you, guilt-tripping you into doing things you don’t want to do, etc.

2. Then, Start Asking Them Questions

Manipulative people want control. Therefore, asking them questions will help you regain your control while lessening their influence on you. When you ask them about all the details of what they are asking you to do, then you will be able to shed a light on their ulterior motives and expose them for who they are.

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4. Say NO!

This is actually your best asset to beat the manipulator on their own game. When you say someone to a person who tries to manipulate you, that action of yours will cause them to lose their senses and freak out. They may start arguing with you and calling you names. Plus, expect to be badmouthed. Some manipulators will never speak to you again, but that’s amazing – if they do that, it’s your ultimate win.

5. Use Time To Your Advantage

If, however, you can’t say ‘no’, then try taking your time and using it to your advantage. How? Tell them you need time to think about what they’ve asked you. That’s how you take your power back together with the control of the situation.

What do you think? Do you have other tactics for dealing with a manipulator?

Mary Wright