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Remember, Apologies Don’t Mean Anything – Actions Do.

Don’t say you are sorry for treating me badly and then going back to treating me the same way. Your apology doesn’t count if your behavior towards me remains unchanged. It’s empty and meaningless. And it is not a reflection on your maturity, because real maturity comes from recognizing your flaws and correcting them.

I will never feel guilty for walking away from you because you have hurt me. Yes, you apologized and said you regret doing so. But you did it again. And again. And again. You kept hurting me and that is something I won’t allow anymore. Everyone has permission to walk away from someone who continues hurting them.

If someone has my best intentions at heart and really loves me, then they will correct their toxic behavior because they wouldn’t want to see me in pain.

Of course, they won’t be perfect and flawless, but they are going to be willing to work on the things that are harming our relationship. Because there is a great difference between a toxic partner who is unwilling to change and someone who has good intentions and they love you but sometimes make minor unintentional mistakes.

Because there are people who were apologizing to me just because they knew that that’s what I wanted to hear, and they thought it was the easiest way out. Yes, their apology might have been sincere, but it turned out that they only treated me better for a short period of time and they ended up going back to their old ways.

This is a common tactic of emotional manipulators. They act like they are sorry for how they treated you because they want to lure you in their life again. Therefore, they sweet-talk you and give you an illusion that they are changed until you put down your guard and then they go back to being a**holes.

So, be careful when you accept apologies. Only give people second chances if you really believe that they are capable of working on themselves and bettering themselves. Don’t lower your standards and forget about your needs just so that you can have an excuse for keeping someone in your life. Don’t hurt yourself like that.

And remember, apologies don’t mean anything – actions do!

Therefore, don’t feel bad about walking away from someone who is not deserving of your time, love, and energy.

Don’t Take Rejection Personally: It Can Be A Blessing In Disguise To Start Searching For Someone Better

Don’t Take Rejection Personally: It Can Be A Blessing In Disguise To Start Searching For Someone Better

When someone says that you are not the right person for them or that they would want to move forward with their life without you in it you can do a lot of things. You can certainly start crying and yelling or you can try throwing your phone at them.

But don’t. First, because your phone is more valuable than they are at the moment and second because you should respect their decision. 

Peacefully accepting that someone had a change of heart is the most grown-up thing you can do. You respect yourself by showing that you understand the decision and you do yourself a favor when you walk away.

You take a deep breath, you smile, and you accept. And then you move forward.

Accepting the things we wish weren’t true is one of the hardest challenges, but it’s better to accept them sooner than later because otherwise, we’ll be wasting our time and energy. False hope has rotten roots and nothing good can come out of it. 

I mean, realizing that the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with didn’t feel that way about you can certainly crush your ego, but you’ll be thankful for that in the future for you’ll learn how not to let your guard down too soon and you’ll learn so much about self-respect, maturity, and individuality. 

You will learn a thing or two about self-worth and you’ll put yourself first. 

One person’s rejection or approval does not, I repeat, does not define your whole life. Your talents, your personality, your achievements. 

You are a special cookie and you’ll find someone who is going to love you for you and you’ll feel it in your gut that they are the right one for you. As humans, we have a way of sensing those things.

If that person decided that you are not right for each other, then you need to stop idealizing the relationship you had with them because obviously, that relationship wasn’t perfect. Far from it.

When you in a relationship some feelings should be mutual. If someone decided to be honest with you and set you free, take that chance to get out of there, slam the door to the past, and seal it. 

You may not find love when you’ll be looking for it. It may take months, years, but it’s better to search for that person who will be happy to have you – alone.

Holding grudges never helped anyone because everyone is just trying to find happiness for themselves. So, don’t take rejection personally. You’ve probably rejected someone or something yourself down the road because it wasn’t what you needed at the time.

True, right? Well, you get my point. Now cheer up and make use of what you already have in front of you. The right person for you will pop up when you least expect them and it will feel right.

I Am Strong But I Still Need Someone To Hold My Hand

I am a strong person but I still need love. I need to have someone who will be there for me. Someone who will take my hand and tell me that everything is going to be okay. Someone who will take away all my fears and worries.

I am a strong and independent person, but sometimes I need a loyal person who will hug me and show me the meaning of true love. Someone who will feel like home to me. 

Simple Yet Cute “Good Morning” Texts That Will Melt Her Heart

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1. Good morning beautiful.

2. You look so lovely when you are sleeping.

3. I love waking up next to you.

4. I hope your day is as beautiful as you.

5. I had a wonderful time with you last night.

6. You’ll be on my thoughts today.

7. Knowing that you are mine makes me so calm and peaceful.

8. I love lying in bed next to you.

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9. I can’t wait to see you.

10. I wish we could stay in bed all day and be lazy.

11. Kick ass at work today.

12. You are always, always on my mind.

13. I love hearing your sleepy voice in the morning.

14. I enjoy having my pillows smell like you.

15. When will I see you again?

16. Your presence feels so good.

17. I just love watching you sleep.

18. I hope you slept well.

19. I can’t wait to see you.

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20. I am missing your snuggles.

21. Is it normal that I just woke up and I miss you already?

22. Good morning gorgeous.

23. Have a great day, sunshine.

24. I love being with you.

25. I am so happy with you.

26. You are the most beautiful after you wake up.

27. You are the most beautiful woman I know.

28. Everything is better with you by my side.

19. Every morning is a good one when you are next to me.

30. I will love you.

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Stop Chasing Him. You Are Hurting Yourself.

Stop chasing him and giving him power. If you are not happy and satisfied with the minimal amount of affection he is giving you, then walk away from him. Don’t let him get away with it and think it is okay to not put an effort and hurt your feelings.

Don’t do it. Don’t let him do as he pleases. Don’t let him get away with things like that. Because, if you are sticking with him you are telling him that it is okay to mistreat you.

Stop chasing him because that makes him lazy. When you chase him, he wouldn’t bother anymore to send you messages and plan dates with you. He won’t chase you back because you will do all the heavy lifting for him. Stop doing it. Stop making it so easy for him.

And the more you continue chasing him, the more you’ll resent him. You might think now that you are happy just by having him in your life, but this phase will come to an end and you’ll hate him for every ignored text or call. You’ll resent him for every date he cancels and for having the nerve to screw you over and over, especially after everything you’ve done for him.

One day you will get tired of everything. You will become exhausted to be the only one fighting for the relationship. One day, you will realize that it is not fair and that by staying in the unhealthy relationship for that long you have broken your own heart when you should have left.

Because chasing him will do just that – it will break your heart. Your self-esteem will go lower and lower. You’ll wonder constantly why you are the only one putting effort and doing everything while he can’t even remember your birthday.

By chasing him, you are subtly telling him that he can reject or ghost you and come back as if nothing happened. He can ignore you for a month and then call you and everything will be fine because he knows you will forgive him and take him back with open arms.

He knows he has you right where he wants you. He knows you are not going anywhere while you are constantly worrying whether he will leave you for someone else.

Stop doing it! Stop torturing yourself and calling it love.

Don’t be the only one who tries. Leave this toxic relationship behind and find someone who will love you and put an effort into the relationship as much as you do. Because real and healthy love is all about mutual trust, respect, compromise, and willingness to work together as a team.

Maybe Some Things Will Happen Only After We Learn How To Stop Comparing Ourselves To Others

Don’t Waste Yourself Loving Someone From Afar: You Deserve The Real Thing

You cannot force life to happen to you. You cannot force getting a better job, fall in love, or even harder yet, get someone else to fall in love with you.

You cannot force getting more money and going on that trip you’ve been planning for months. But, what you can do is stop stewing alone and take every adventure as it comes your way.

Never underestimate the power of new friendships, parties, theatre plays, mountain hikes, or new hobbies. Those things can lift you up just as much as anything else you daydream about. Because those things broaden your horizons and they make you enjoy your time here on Earth.

Everything will fall into place. Sometimes, when you least expect it, all the missing pieces of the puzzle will fall into place. Effortlessly.

The best thing to do is wait and make good use of the time ahead of you.

You better take your time to discover what is it you want before you lose everything else trying to chase goals imposed by society.

Goals that aren’t necessarily yours. Timing which isn’t necessarily yours and yet you chase it for the sake of fitting in. For the sake of conforming to other people’s expectations and standards.

Live your life the way you want to live it and in case you still haven’t fulfilled all your dreams, don’t stress about it. You are not lagging behind. We all walk down a different road and our life events cannot be synchronized.

I mean, just because every one of your friends is in a relationship, or married, or has children, it doesn’t mean that you have to rush to do those things as well.

We are the happiest when love and success surprise us, take us by storm. When they are unforced and spontaneous. We are the happiest when we do our thing; when we live life until life of another form happens to us.

I know you compare yourself to other people, but that’s not a realistic comparison.

You compare yourself to the image of them. You don’t compare yourself to that actual, ordinary, fallible person, but to their Instagram profile. And I know that you want to stop comparing yourself to others, and I know that’s easier said than done.

But trust me, there is a tremendous difference between people on social media and the people behind it.

We are all fragile.  We like to look better, more successful, more in love than we are. It’s all just smoke and mirrors. If you put social media aside for a while, if you look at the people through different lenses you’ll see yourself: with the same insecurities, doubts, dreams, cravings, and plans. Just different timing.

So stop chasing vapor. Focus on what’s already there and trust that you’ll get everything you want and need in life, if only you let loose and let life take its course.

We don’t dictate the order of events, but we do dictate our happiness, our perspective, our mindset. Remember, what you see and what’s real is not always the same.

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If You Love Someone, Say It. Life’s Too Short

Have you ever loved someone and you didn’t know what you should do about it?

Perhaps it was a friend, someone with whom you were romantically involved, or someone completely new in your life and you didn’t know how to express your love to them.

Yes, we all struggle with showing our emotions and be vulnerable. We all fear loving someone and expressing our love to them and realizing that that love is not being reciprocated. It is a fear we all have, the fear of rejection.

I think, first of all, we should all ask ourselves whether we really love the person we have in mind. If we do, then we should give it a chance and say how we feel.

Life’s too short. And regret is worse than rejection. After 10 or 20 years you will regret the chances you didn’t take and the words you didn’t say to people who mattered to you.

Therefore, if someone holds a special place in your heart, make sure they know. If you are afraid of losing someone, that means something. Follow your intuition and your heart, always.  

Fight for what you love. It’s the only war worth fighting for. And you deserve to be happy.

We Outgrow People Who Are Unable To Love Us The Right Way

We Outgrow People Who Are Unable To Love Us The Right Way

The reality is, we outgrow people who are not true and genuine with us. Those who are not honest. Those who say things we want to hear but never take action to prove them. Those who don’t give a damn about our needs and desires because they only care about their own. Those who expect us to accept them the way they are but are busy changing us and shaping us into the people they want us to be.

We outgrow people who don’t respect us and don’t appreciate us. Those who are fine regardless of whether they have us in their lives. Those who make us feel worthless and replaceable.

We Outgrow People Who Are Unable To Love Us The Right Way

We outgrow people who make us beg for their time and attention. People who make us feel like we are not worthy of them. People who put us last on their list of priorities. Those who never have time for us.

Because we reach a point of no return. When we remind ourselves of our worth and what we deserve, we will not be selling short ourselves ever again. We will turn out back to those people and walk away. We won’t be giving them our hearts and energy to someone who takes us for granted.

We are choosing ourselves. We are practicing self-love.

Because we don’t have time for people who don’t invest in us. We outgrow those who treat us as ordinary. Those who keep us around until they find what they are looking for.

We outgrow people who are unable to love us the way we deserve to be loved. Those who don’t contribute to our lives in any way. Those who make us question our self-worth.

We outgrow people who are not scared of losing us because they have never seen our value and they never will.

 

I am currently writing my first book titled Inside The Narcissist’s Psyche: His Ability To Make Victims Stay With Him Even Though The Pain They’re Feeling Is Unbearable” If you are interested to take a glimpse at it, follow this link and tell us whether you like the subject so that we can send you a  free chapter after we publish it.

This Is Me, Giving Up On You And Finally Moving On To Something Better

I watched you how easily you made promises and I watched you break them all with the same easiness. I watched you tell lies and expecting me to believe them. I watched you burn all the bridges that I’ve built for our relationship to turn into something real. I also watched you turn into the coldest person I know while I was there, giving you all the love and warmth that I had for you.

And I stayed. I stayed through all the bullshit. I always found strength in my heart to forgive you because I was terrified of letting you go.

I believed in ‘us’ so much that I forgot about myself. I held onto you for so long, wishing and hoping that things will change. I trusted you with all my heart because I believed that you loved me too and that this rough phase will soon pass, and we will be happy together.

But, you only made me watch you break promises. You only made me believe that love is just a temporary feeling and it passes away. You forced me to see that staying with a person who makes you wonder where you stand with them is a complete waste of time.

And now, this is me – finally giving up on you and choosing myself.

This is me giving up on you because I realized that I have no future with you and that I deserve to have someone who will happily plan a future with me. I am walking away from you because I am finally done walking on eggshells trying to make you happy while you were taking me for granted and treated me as if I were disposable.

I am finally done dealing with your selfishness and emotional immaturity. I am not giving you another chance this time.

This time, I will focus on loving myself and giving love only to those people who love me back and put an effort and energy into our relationship.

This is me, telling you that you are no longer the love of my life. This is me, telling you that you are not allowed back into my life because I won’t let you ruin my happiness again and mess with my life.

This is me, saying my final goodbye and this time I don’t look forward to seeing you. Our paths will cross here, and I will never look back.

And I know that this is the best decision I’ve ever made.

Outgrow Modern Dating: Likes And Chatting Make An Online Relationship, Not A Real One

Don’t be flattered by that person who likes all of your selfies on Instagram. 

Be flattered by that person who likes you for you: with your messy hair and no makeup, with your unshaved beard and beer breath. 

Don’t be flattered by the person who sends you heart emojis and memes, or sends you a good night text. That takes a second.

Be flattered by the person who is willing to change his relationship status for you and hold your hand in public. No doubts or hesitations. 

True, genuine love is not rendered by our phones and the texts we send with them. It is not rendered by virtual connections, on the contrary, it is rendered by two people going on dates, communicating, and finding their mutual hobbies and adventures. 

So, don’t be flattered if someone is acting all perfect on social media, but haven’t introduced you to their friends or family yet. 

Be flattered when you get to meet the inner circle of a person thanks to their own initiative. 

Be flattered when they welcome you in their world and shout out from the rooftop you are together.

Modern-day dating is often about physical beauty and who gets to text first. It’s also about appearances. 

What was that thing about appearances? Oh, they are deceiving. 

Virtual relationships are an inevitable stage of modernity. I get that. But after the likes, the comments, and the perfect selfies, you need something more. That something “more” is what will make the difference between a fling and a relationship. 

Show genuine interest in that person you want to be with, invest both in spending time, and creating memories with them.

Don’t be flattered by someone who gives you presents and plans special dinners for your birthday or for Valentine’s day only.

Be flattered if that special someone wants to spend every night with you and gives you presents on a random day.  

Sometimes, what you see is what you get. So, if that special someone is not willing to go the extra mile, take things at face value. If they want to form a life with you and grow old, you’ll notice how they are more present in your life than on social media. 

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8 Things You Should Remember Whenever You Feel Broken Inside

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Life is a series of ups and downs. And when you’ve been down for so long and you are slowly falling into the dark abyss of despair, sadness, and hopelessness, please remember this:

1. Remember that your cracks will allow light to come in.

If your heart doesn’t break from time to time, then there wouldn’t be a place for the light to enter your life. Sometimes, all it takes is a painful, heart-crushing experience to remind up that we are alive. You must get broken first to be able to see and appreciate all the goodness in the world and transform yourself into a better and stronger human being. It’s not easy, and it wasn’t supposed to be easy. But you will make it and then a new door of opportunities will open for you.

2. Remember to embrace your feelings instead of fighting them.

Instead of fighting your bad emotions, try embracing them. They are what make you human. Crying, screaming, falling down to your knees in despair are all strong emotions and it is better to let them out instead of bottling them because eventually, someday they will backfire on you. Feel everything. Feel your emotions. Don’t run from them. Emotions are a vital part of the healing process and life in general.

3. Remember your “WHY”.

Whenever you feel insufficient, broken, let down, exhausted… keep remembering yourself and your purpose in life. Remind yourself about your goals and dreams. Always keep your “why” in mind and remember, every negative situation will only provide you with new perspectives and opportunities. Negative experiences are also valuable experiences, sometimes more valuable than positive ones if you are willing to learn from them.

4. Remember that your friends and family are there for you.

When you feel down and broken inside, please remember that you can always count on your family and friends for support. They will comfort you when you need them and help you find your strength again.  

5. Remember that you are not your feelings.

Remember that you don’t own your feelings and your feelings don’t own you. They don’t define you. They are only temporary, and they will pass. Happiness, sadness, excitement, pain… it all passes eventually. You are so much more than your feelings, remember that.

6. Remember the things that exist beyond your brokenness.

Just because you are in pain, it doesn’t mean that all the good things in the world ceased to exist. Remember that no matter how much darkness you are experiencing now, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Many beautiful and good things are waiting for you around the corner. Just be patient.

7. Remember the things that make you happy and focus on them.

Often, when you feel broken inside, you focus your attention only on the things that bring you pain and despair and you forget to remember all the things that make you happy. You forget the beauty of going for a walk, chatting with your friends, enjoying your cup of coffee, riding your bike, reading a book… anything that makes your soul sing with joy. Try to heal your heart by enjoying the littlest things in life.

8. Remember that pain is temporary.

Everything passes. Everything is temporary. Pain as well. Therefore, don’t take it too seriously. Try to see your pain as heroic. See it as something that has taught you many life lessons and shaped you in the person you are today.

Why Are So Many Smart And Attractive Women Still Rolling Solo?

Have you ever wondered why so many smart, confident, and attractive women are often single? Well, let’s get this straight – they aren’t single since they think they’re better than the rest, but because they can’t find men who deserve their attention, respect, and love. 

It’s not that these women fear that someone might betray their trust and break their hearts. Or that they are solely interested in building a successful career and achieving high social status. The truth is that their high self-esteem and intellectual abilities prevent them from beginning a relationship with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship. You can find more about this relationship in this review. 

They don’t want to waste their energy and time on a man that can’t keep up with them in all aspects of life. A man that’s afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve. A man that lacks confidence. A man that doesn’t bother to commit.

So, if you’ve been wondering why so many intelligent and gorgeous women are often single, make sure you read the following reasons:

1. They have very high standards.

These women are aware of their worth and they won’t accept to be with someone who isn’t compatible with them. Their partners must possess all the necessary characteristics this type of women are looking for in a man. Being strong, confident, independent, and driven matters a lot.

2. They put in a great deal of effort and energy in becoming accomplished in different spheres.

Super smart and gorgeous women like doing whatever they can to become more independent and improve themselves on a personal and professional level. They don’t wait for things to get done by themselves. On the other hand, it seems that men lack that ambition and commitment to shoot for high goals. This is something these women can’t stand.

3. They already feel complete.

This kind of women doesn’t need a guy to feel emotionally complete and accomplished. They already have amazing friends and careers. They always look for new goals and passions to pursue. If they decide to be with someone, then he must respect and know how to deal with this.

4. They can’t tolerate bulls**t.

Hell yeah! Why would you think otherwise? These women would never allow someone to play little devious mind games with them. They’ll never let anyone juggle with their feelings, cheat on, and lie to them. They’ve had this kind of crappy experiences many times before and now they won’t let be manipulated again.

5. The childish dream of marrying the prince on a white horse does no longer exist.

Hah, they’ve grown up. They don’t believe in these delusions anymore. They don’t need a husband to feel safe and protected. They don’t need someone to watch them while they sleep at night. They even know that they don’t need a guy to have kids. They’re not afraid to be single mothers and pave the path to their happiness on their own.

6. They are never a second option.

These women always come first and will never settle for anything less than that. If most guys are so naïve to believe that they can easily replace these women with the first one they find on the social media, they’re awfully wrong. These women have a sixth sense and if they feel something strange is going on behind their backs, they’ll stop that even before it begins.

7. A lot of guys feel intimidated by smart and attractive women.

This kind of women is aware of their power as well. Yet, they’ll never consent to act as if they’re naïve or stupid so that they don’t diminish the confidence of some guy or make him feel inferior to them. These women know what they deserve and if men can’t deal with it, then I’m sorry, but it’s their loss.

I Am A Strong Woman And Here’s Why It Is So Damn Hard For Me To Find Love

Very often, people falsely thing that strong women don’t want to fall in love and get married to the man of their life. And while it’s true that the majority of these ladies are very independent and happy on their own, that doesn’t mean they are not looking for love.

I think of myself as a strong woman, independent and in touch with her feelings. I have been in a few relationships that were emotionally fulfilling but they all ended suddenly and abruptly, and it was after I decided to get back in touch with myself after a period of losing myself in the relationship.

I don’t know why I get stuck in these patterns, but I believe it all happens because deep down I am conflicted. One part of me wants to find love, while the other part of me doesn’t want to compromise my beliefs, values, and freedom.

Of course, I can’t say that this is true for other strong and independent ladies out there, but my experiences have been depressing. Whenever I meet someone I like, I get overly excited and enthusiastic about the relationship, especially if he gained my respect for his ambition, humility, and his caring but bold nature.

But I always tend to think they are better than they are and that’s my fatal mistake. I always imagine people to be better than they are, and I get disappointed when I see their true colors.

Yes, I understand that we are all imperfect human beings and we should not look for perfection because no one can be, but if someone is not ready to meet me halfway and be an equal partner to me, then why are they pretending to be?

I know that committing to someone and falling in love can be scary, but it is more terrifying for us, strong women, who have their lives together to waste their time and energy on someone who is not ready to be serious.

We are grown-ass women! We are past the point of casual dating. We are looking for the real thing.

I, myself, don’t have the time to get in a relationship with someone who is not ready to live up to his potential and doesn’t want the same things as I do. I want the real deal. I want someone as strong and ambitious as me. I want someone who won’t be scared of their feelings for me. I want someone who will match my intensity and respect my goals. I want someone who will stand beside me and match me on all levels.

Because, what I am fearing is not that I’ll end up alone, but that I’ll end up with the wrong person.

How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor That Will Solve All Your Problems

Marriage counseling can make or break your marriage. You cannot go wrong with a marriage counselor. Learn how to find a good marriage counselor here.

They say happy wife, happy life. They also say that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

All cliches aside, divorce rates are high, so everyone in a relationship has to put their ideals aside to work together. A happy and successful marriage only happens when you put your heads and hearts together to make it work.

Knowing how to find a good marriage counselor is the first step. Here are all the ways you can get the best marriage counselor possible.

Find Someone That Has Training and Qualifications

Any marriage counselor should have qualifications that are easy to verify.

You can get advice from anyone, but a marriage counselor should be a licensed and trained therapist. Verify first what college degrees they have and where they received them.

Ask them when they passed their medical boards and how long they have had their counseling license. The longer they have been around giving professional counseling to married couples, the better they will be in a place for you to trust them.

Be Sure That They Have the Ability to Be Impartial

No one wants to feel like they are under attack. Since you are going to a counselor to make your relationship better, it has to be a safe place for both of you.

Don’t choose a therapist that choose one side or the other. Also, don’t choose a counselor that doesn’t put the success of the marriage as the top priority.

Some therapists lean toward helping people figure out if they want a divorce as opposed to the success of the marriage. Divorce should always be on the table for a failed marriage, but an impartial therapist can help you work on the strategies that will actually help to save the relationship.

Look Into Some Different Counseling Styles

Just because marriage counselors are in the same line of work doesn’t mean they go about business the same way. There are all sorts of counseling styles that professionals use.

Psychodynamic counseling, existential therapy, humanistic counseling, interpersonal counseling, mindfulness counseling, and cognitive behavioral therapy are just a few of the styles that you might get.

No school of thought is right or wrong. The thing to think about is which style fits your personality and the relationship.

A different counseling style might also work better based on your relationship goals.

Know What You Need to Get Out of Going to the Marriage Counselor

There are always different reasons for going to the counselor. It’s always a good idea to get therapy, even if you don’t have anything currently wrong that you need to work through. This will teach you how to communicate with each other and will also make it easier to understand one another.

If you do have a major problem that you need to work through, you should state the specific goal. People that are dealing with infidelity or parenting differences should specifically state these issues so that they can start working through the problems one by one.

The better you know yourselves upfront, the better you can move forward as a couple through some solid counseling.

Assess Their Personality and Communication Styles

Therapists are also human beings so don’t just put all of your stock in their medical experience. You still need to find someone that is friendly and easy to talk to.

Energetically, they should put you at ease every time you speak with them. Their personality traits should match both what you and your husband or wife respond to. This way, you can start your sessions at neutral, rather than in the negative because your counselor’s personality already rubs you or the other partner the wrong way.

Use a Counselor That You Can Afford

Make sure that affordability is something that you put as a priority.

Going to the counselor is something that you will have to do once a week at a minimum if you want it to be effective. This is another bill that you will have to add to your living expenses.

If every counseling session costs $50 to $100, you need to be sure that it isn’t an issue for you to swing it. If one or both of you has health insurance that covers counseling, definitely find a therapist that is in your network.

Think About Any Spiritual or Religious Beliefs

The bonding and unity of your marriage is also a spiritual thing. You need to be sure that your counselor matches your spiritual beliefs.

If you both have a strong faith leaning, then perhaps choose a counselor that is also faith-based. If you’re atheist, you wouldn’t want a counselor that can’t see past their own spiritual beliefs.

Make this decision early so you can feel good in your heart about who you are hiring.

Ask About Their Own Personal Relationships

How is your counselor’s relationship?

Don’t feel that this is an intrusive question. You don’t need to pry into their personal business, but it is fair for you to want to know if your counselor currently has a successful marriage.

It doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker for you. But seeing if they are able to apply their expertise in real life can be helpful in choosing a counselor.

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Moving On Doesn’t Mean Finding A New Person. It Means Finding Oneself

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After a breakup, there are people who want to win the breakup by finding a new person quickly to fill the void that the ex-partner left.

Yes, I agree that relationships aren’t a game and after breaking up with someone instead of trying to find happiness in another person, you should focus on yourself and find a way to heal yourself while moving on with your life genuinely and gracefully.

Of course, no one wants to go through Facebook pictures of their ex with their new relationship while you are still alone and getting over it.

We all want to feel wanted and desired, especially after a painful breakup. However, the trouble comes when we start measuring our happiness by whether we have a new romantic partner.

Moving on has nothing to do with finding a new person. It is now about getting back on the dating game. And it is not about going into a new relationship, falling in love, and plan your happily ever after. No. It doesn’t work like that.

Moving on is taking back your life. It is investing in yourself and your life. It is following your dreams. Taking care of yourself. It is growing and learning. It is making peace with your past and finding love and peace within yourself.

As for me, after breaking a long-term relationship, followed by a career change, an apartment move, traveling, and a lot of reflection on myself and my life, I realized that during that process, I had forgotten all about him. And I managed to get over him without falling in love with someone else because during my grieving period, I stayed single. I haven’t even gone on dates.

So, for me, moving on had nothing to do with committing to a new person. For me, moving on meant welcoming a new phase of my life when I was in commitment to myself.

Of course, moving on is not the same for all people. Some people move on only by finding someone new. Others build a bustling career and are happy living their independent lives.

No two people are the same, and so, the healing process of moving on is different for everybody.

After all, moving on is simply being happy again without your ex. And never wanting to go back.