Sometimes the person you love from the bottom of your heart can break your heart and wreck your hopes. Sometimes the person you believe loves you truly can show you that love isn’t a smooth journey and that it can be quite hard and painful sometimes.
There isn’t pain as great as that of heartbreak, especially if that heartbreak was the result of an infidelity.
Indeed, to be cheated on by the person you’ve given your heart and loved with every fiber of your being is like having your heart shattered into countless tiny pieces. It’s like having your soul ripped away from you.
It can make you doubt yourself. It can make you question your worth. It can make you wonder whether you deserve to be loved. It can make you think that true love doesn’t exist. But, it can also teach you some valuable lessons that you’ll remember for the rest of your life.
Here are 5 things you learn about love after being cheated on:
1. Love doesn’t conquer all.
When you’ve been cheated on by the person you believed you’d grow old with, the saying love conquers all begins to sound funny to you. You realize that sometimes no matter how much you love someone, you can’t overlook certain behaviors. You can’t overlook their unfaithfulness and lies.
2. The person you love the most can break your heart nonchalantly.
After you’ve been cheated on by the person who swore that they loved you from the bottom of their heart, you realize that some people are capable of doing awful things. You realize that some people can break your heart in the blink of an eye.
But you also learn that their infidelity has nothing to do with you. It has nothing to do with your physical appearance, social status, or who you are as a person. That’s the reason why you should never blame yourself for their betrayal.
3. Love is not always enough.
You might find this absurd but regardless of how much someone loves you, love can’t prevent them from cheating on you. Because no matter who you are and how you behave in the relationship, a person is going to cheat on you regardless because of their weaknesses and insecurities.
4. Jealousy is a dangerous feeling.
After you’ve been cheated on, it’s normal to feel a pang of jealousy. But, what you need to know is that jealousy can lead you to doubt yourself and your worth. It can make you think that you did something wrong and therefore deserved to be cheated on. It can make you justify your partner’s crappy behavior and even forgive their infidelity.
But, remember – cheating can never be justified and it can never be overlooked.
5. Love makes you strong.
Once you’ve been cheated on and once your heart has been broken by someone you loved so dearly, you come to the realization that you are a tough and resilient person. You realize that there’s no such pain that can break you. You realize that you’re strong enough to overcome any pain life may throw your way.