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After All My Heartbreak I’m Finding It Hard To Keep My Standards High


Like most people, I’ve had my fair share for bad relationships. I’ve had people play me, break my heart, and take me for a fool. Although I wish I could sit here and tell you that all those experiences have made me stronger, I don’t think that that’s the truth. In all honesty, I’m struggling.

As a result of my past, I’ve begun to let more than a few things slip. I’m ashamed to say that after all my heartbreaks, I’m finding it hard to keep my standards high.

There Are Times That I Ignore The Red Flags

I’ll admit it – I fall for the wrong people sometimes.

People who are bad for me, people who are uninterested, people who are toxic. All of these are people who I’ve found myself falling for, even recently. It’s not something that I’m proud of and I’m trying to change, but sometimes you just can’t control your heart.

Thankfully, I often pull myself back before it’s too late. However, sometimes it goes too far. Sometimes I ignored all the warning signs and dive straight in, headfirst.

When that happens, I can do nothing but pick up the pieces of myself afterward.

There Are Times That I Obsess

No matter who in the world asks me, even if it’s my greatest enemy, I will tell them that they have worth. Everyone has value and deserves basic respect. Likewise, I deserve that for myself too. I deserve to be valued, to be loved, and to be seen for the beauty within me.

Although I know that deep down, sometimes I forget. Sometimes, I allow myself to be mistreated or walked all over.

I fight for the attention of people who don’t give a damn about me.

I’ll spend hours waiting for a reply to a text, even though I promised myself that I would never do that again. When the person I’m interested in invites me somewhere, I’ll drop everything just to say “yes.”

I forget that I deserve to be a priority, not a second choice.

There Are Time That I Forget What’s Important

Let me tell you who my perfect partner is – they’re someone kind and thoughtful. They’re the sort of person who thinks about others and knows what it means to give. Along with that, they’re someone who truly cares about me, who acknowledges my feelings, and is willing to put in the effort it takes to be in a strong, healthy relationship.

I know who I want to be with, and I know what’s most important to me when it comes to love. Despite that, I’ve let my standards slip. I’ve settled one too many times for people who I know will never be right for me.

I let my heart take over, now maybe it’s time I let my mind take control.

It breaks my heart to admit that I’ve been struggling to keep my standards high. I’ve lost sight of what I truly deserve in a relationship and of what’s important to me too. Now, all I can do is try to change and hope for a love that’s everything I’ve ever wanted. All I can do is to try and keep my standards high.

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Eva Jackson