Confidence is having faith in one’s abilities to be successful in any area of their life. But, not many people are able to find a healthy balance between having too much confidence and not having it at all.
When someone is overly confident, other people often perceive them as arrogant. On the other hand, if someone is not confident, they may sabotage themselves by not taking risks, thus missing great opportunities.
I’m sure that all of you have met someone that immediately caught your attention and captivated you with their persona. Be it the way they walked, talked, their appearance, their manners, their taste… you name it. There are people who just radiate and mesmerize other people wherever they go.
You can call this confidence, charm, magnetism, charisma, allure – whatever you like. The fact is that these people have an “IT” factor that attracts others like a magnet.
Here are 8 habits that all charming and confident people have in common.
1. THEY HAVE AN IMPECCABLE BODY LANGUAGE
Their confidence is showing in their body language. A highly confident person can’t hide their confidence. It is showing in the way they carry themselves.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that they are always confident. They also have days when their confidence is low, but they have just the right posture and body language to conceal that fact and appear confident even at times when they are not feeling confident at all.
2. THEY START THEIR DAY WITH A POSITIVE MINDSET
Confident people understand that starting the day with positive thoughts can have a great impact on their lives and make things more enjoyable and easier for them.
When you start your day with happy and positive thoughts, all your interactions and conversations during the day will be much more positive. When you are cheerful and happy, you make other people happy as well. As they say, happiness is contagious. Plus, everyone likes to be around a positive person.
3. THEY ARE ACTIVE LISTENERS
One study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology says that people who ask questions and show interest make other people feel more comfortable around them and encourage them to open up.
Moreover, an active listener is instantly more likable and attractive to the other person because who doesn’t want to talk about themselves and have someone to listen to them?
4. THEY SMILE A LOT
As the saying goes, a smile can go a long way. It also has the power to make other people drop their guards and be real with you.
Moreover, many studies have also found that people who are smiling are perceived as more attractive and more approachable than others.
5. THEY DON’T HAVE A NEED TO BE ALWAYS RIGHT
The brain’s response of “fight or flight” is based on primitive emotions that we all have ingrained in us which make us want to be right all the time.
Confident people, however, don’t base their actions on these primitive emotions, and that’s why they can stay collected and hold a proper conversation with others even when they have opposing views.
6. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID TO SHOW THEIR VULNERABLE SIDE
Vulnerability doesn’t equal weakness. On the contrary, it is a very human trait that is both charming and compelling. However, not many people can be vulnerable and show their vulnerability. It takes a strong person to be vulnerable.
Vulnerability is also a characteristic that all confident people share because it carries a powerful message – that no one is perfect, and we don’t need to try to be.
7. THEY FIND HAPPINESS WITHIN THEMSELVES
Only insecure people need constant validation and attention from others in order to feel good about themselves.
On the other hand, confident people are perfectly happy with themselves. They don’t think that they need an external person in their life to make them happy because they are already happy on their own.
8. THEY ONLY COMPETE WITH THEMSELVES
Confident people work hard to achieve their dreams and goals. They don’t compete with anyone. They only compete with themselves. They are always finding new challenges to accomplish. On the other hand, people who have low confidence always compare themselves with others.
Of course, people want to be around confident people who don’t challenge anyone but inspire them with their energy and enthusiasm to improve themselves.