A year ago, I decided to take a break from dating for a while. I was so sick of constantly ending up with the wrong people and always being left with a broken heart. After so many failed romances, I realized that I needed to figure out what the problem was. After a lot of self-reflection, I think I’ve cracked the code.
I want you to learn from what I’ve finally begun to understand so that you can pinpoint what’s stopping you from finding the right person. These are 5 reasons why you keep falling for the wrong people.
1. You Fear Being Alone
Some people love being alone, other’s hate it. Then there are those people who think that they really enjoy their time away from everyone, not realizing that deep down, it terrifies them. Perhaps you fear being left alone with no one to keep you company. If it seems like you jump from relationship to relationship, this is probably true for you.
2. Your Self-Esteem is Low
Confidence is something that everyone struggles with. Low self-esteem can cause a wealth of problems in every area of your life. Feeling that, deep within yourself, you’re not worth much makes you believe that you don’t deserve the best. It can cause you to choose the wrong people since you think that you don’t deserve better.
3. You Think That You Can Change People
We see it all the time, someone gets in a relationship with another person who isn’t quite right for them, but they think that they can change them. This path is destined for failure. People will only change when they want to, not when someone else tries to make them. As well as that, you can’t make them want to change either. Trying to will only bring you more disappointment that you don’t need.
4. You Don’t Know What You Want in Life
It’s so important that you know what you want in your own life before you make a commitment to someone else. How can you be sure that their goals are compatible with yours otherwise? If you haven’t figured out the major details of your life yet, such as where you want to live or if you want kids, then you need to.
5. You Choose Similar People
Maybe you call it having a type, but in a line-up of your exes, it would probably be hard to tell them apart. It doesn’t have to be just their looks either, having similar personalities is far more worrying. When you keep going for the same kind of person, and it keeps not working out, perhaps it’s time to consider looking for someone different.
Dating is hard. There are so many ways that things can go terribly wrong and you can be left devastated. The most difficult part is if the same scenario keeps happening over and over again. Take some time to be alone and reflect on the kind of relationship that you really want to have.
Do you have a friend who has this same problem? Share this article with them to help them to determine the reasons why.