When you and your partner are in love, you can’t help but grow together and become better people. True and unconditional love is a love that comes freely, without any expectations or ulterior motives.
When you really love your partner you don’t expect them to change. You already love them for who they are, flaws and all.
You can’t hope that your partner will change their behavior or something about them that bothers you and still say that you love them. That’s not unconditional love. That’s a selfish love. You can’t have a perfect person in your mind and expect to turn your partner into them.
It is not okay to think that you have such a control over another human being that you can make them change, gloss over their flaws and imperfections and shape them into the person you want them to be. It is a very hypocritical thing to do since we are all flawed.
So, instead of thinking of everything that you don’t like about your partner, try to just love them for who they are. You’ll see how love will transform and change both of you in the most beautiful way possible. You will help each other grow and become better people.
However, everything should start with you first. You can only receive if you are able to give.
That being said, when you and your partner truly love each other you motivate and inspire each other to grow and become the best version of yourselves. When you love unconditionally, you become what your partner deserves, and they become what you deserve.
When the love between you is true you won’t push things. You’ll let everything happen naturally. You’ll go with the flow. You’ll never force each other to change. Instead, you’ll be best friends. You’ll have each other’s back and you’ll fight for your relationship.
Loving someone unconditionally means caring for the wellbeing of your partner more than caring about your wants. It means staying with them through thick and thin. It means loving them with all your heart when they are sick, nervous, anxious, or in a bad mood.
When you love unconditionally, you love your partner’s imperfections. You accept them for who they are. You accept that both you and your partner will make mistakes, but you quickly forgive each other and continue to love each other.
Unconditional love is hard to find, but you must know that you can’t find it without loving yourself first. Because how you treat yourself is a reflection on how you expect to be treated and what you’ll allow.
Therefore, love yourself unconditionally and you will find someone who will show you what real love is.