You have probably had a partner, a friend, or a family member who was very controlling. They wanted to have the last say with everything, to control everything, and have everything happen according to their rules. When you are around these people, you may feel anxious and overwhelmed.
Here’s why these people are toxic to you and you should avoid them.
1. THEY MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY
Controlling people will try to use guilt as a way to manipulate you to do whatever they ask you to do. If you don’t cater to their needs, they will make you feel guilty for it. They are toxic because they manipulate your emotions for their own needs.
2. THEY CRITICIZE YOU CONSTANTLY
Controlling people are never happy with anything. Nothing is ever good to them. That’s why they will always criticize your choices, your lifestyle… everything. According to them, if something is not done by them, then it is done wrongly.
3. THEY DON’T WANT YOU TO BE YOURSELF
Controlling people don’t want you to be yourself. They want you to be like them. If you are an independent person and thinker, they hate it. They will immediately tell you you are wrong and try to change your mind to think like them. Plus, they get very angry when you decide something without asking them first.
4. THEY DESPISE IT WHEN YOU ASK WHY
Controlling people hate to be questioned. Why? Because they think they know everything and they can’t digest the thought of having someone doubt their beliefs or questioning their logic and the way they do things.
5. THEY IMPOSE ARBITRARY RULES
Controlling people truly believe that what they know and do is the best and they can do no wrong. That’s why they tend to impose rules for others to follow. These rules often are pointless, but as long as these people have the ultimate control, they are happy.