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Why You Need To Stop Obsessing About Finding Love And Start Building Yourself

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1. YOU HAVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TO FALL IN LOVE

Everyone around you is getting hitched, having babies, moving in, except you. So, what? Why would you let that disturb your peace and make you feel uncomfortable?

Each and every one of us has a different journey in life. And while for some that journey may be marrying and having children, for others it may be exploring life and falling in love with themselves. I see nothing wrong here.

Stop comparing yourself to others and be grateful for everything that this life has given you. What you go through is exactly what you need to experience right now.

2. YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO LOVE ANOTHER IF YOU DON’T LOVE YOURSELF

We don’t know how to respect ourselves. We spend a lot of time forcing ourselves to change into a person that we would eventually love more. We love ourselves conditionally instead of unconditionally. We criticize ourselves; we settle for average; we forget to search for our happiness. And ultimately, we prevent love from entering our lives. Why? Because we don’t know what love is.

Stop treating yourself like you don’t matter. Stop disrespecting yourself. You deserve more than you think you do. You have to put everything else aside and learn to love yourself. You will be surprised how much your life will change once you do that.

3. LIFE IS MORE THAN JUST SETTLING FOR THE FIRST PERSON THAT COMES ALONG

Life is not only about growing up, finishing school, finding a job, getting married, having kids and eventually dying. If that’s all there is, I refuse to be a part of it.

Stop settling for people who are not worth it, stop accepting average, stop obsessing about finding a partner, stop worrying that you will end up alone and start living your life instead.

Relationships are not all that matters in life. Don’t let that confuse you. Love is much more than a relationship. It comes in many forms and shapes. Most importantly, it can be found in everything.

4. SINGLEHOOD IS A PHASE THAT WE ALL MUST GO THROUGH TO GROW

Don’t be afraid of being alone. Singlehood is the most amazing, eye-opening phase in life that we all need to go through in order to grow. Instead of fearing the single life, immerse yourself in it. Find out what gets you going, what makes your heart sing, what helps your soul flourish and what sparks up a fire inside your eyes.

Start taking care of yourself. Go to places you’ve always wanted to visit, book a ticket to the end of the world, take yourself out on a date, go to the cinema on your own, lay alone in the night and get comfortable with being your own company. Because, after all, you are the only person who will always be there for you.

Start building the life you want. But, be patient. For blooming takes time.

5. LOVE IS ALL AROUND YOU – IT’S UP TO YOU TO OPEN YOUR EYES AND WELCOME IT

Don’t ever forget this. Falling in love may be a remarkable experience, but it is not all there is to life. It’s true that as humans, romantic relationships are something we desire the most. But, it’s not true that they are the only form of love that can make our heart whole.

Don’t let the happiness of others put you down. Don’t let life make you blind to the reality. Love is everywhere around you. It’s up to you to wake up and welcome love it into your life.