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When You Truly Love Someone, You Put Them On Top Of Your Priority List


When you truly love someone, you rearrange your priorities. That’s just how it is. It’s a sacrifice that we are all willing to do when a special kind of person walks into our life and makes us wonder whether we ever really loved at all.

Don’t get me wrong, rearranging your priorities and putting your partner among the first ones on your list does not mean giving up on your life so they can be happy.

It does not mean forgetting about your friends so you can be 24/7 with them. It does not mean performing badly at work just because you can’t stop thinking about them. It does not mean letting go of your dreams and goals. And it certainly does not mean putting aside your real identity.

Do you want to know what making commitment really means?

Do you want to know what love means?

Love means making time and space in your life for another person. It means going out of your way to make someone feel at home. Giving a damn about how that special someone feels. Caring about their life as much as you care for your own.

Because when you love someone, you respect their opinions and emotions. You stop making rash decisions on your own because you know that no matter what you do, it will impact them as well. And so, you start collaborating. You realize that being in a relationship is not all rainbows and pink skies, but that there’s also a little something called compromise, otherwise known as the art of reaching a reasonable agreement.

You stop thinking about yourself only and you start giving a damn whether your actions are going to hurt them or not. You avoid spending too much time without them. You don’t force them to question themselves whether you love them or not. You simply avoid hurting their feelings because you care too much for them.

However, loving someone does not mean giving up on your life for them. It does not mean that in that process of sharing your life with them you have to drop everything to be with them. They simply cannot expect that they will always be put on the first place of your priority list.

When you genuinely love someone, you promise to always tell the truth and the truth only. You promise to take care of them. You promise to go out of your way to help them and be there for them when they need a shoulder to cry. You sacrifice your time. You change your plans. You answer texts. You show them how you feel. You invest your time and energy into your relationship. And you receive the most precious thing in return – Their unconditional, all-consuming, pure love.

When you truly love someone, you make sure they feel appreciated and acknowledged. You do everything to make them feel safe in your embrace. You let them know that they shouldn’t be afraid to reveal their fragile soul to you because you would never do something to hurt it.  You show them how important they are to you. Most importantly, you care about their happiness as if it was your own.

Stephanie Reeds