I’ve had my fair share of heartache in life. In nearly all of my relationships, I’ve ended up driving the other person away because my anxiety is just too much for them to handle. People have come and gone in and out of my life and left me with no one except for myself and my troubled mind. At some point, I gave up. I thought my disorder had sentenced me to be alone for the rest of my days.
What I realized is that although my illness made it harder to maintain a relationship, it wasn’t really the reason why it ended. If you’re with the wrong person for you, there’s no way that the relationship will survive. However, when you find the right person, anxiety can never tear you apart.
It Will Be Hard
I’m not saying that everything will be perfect when you find that special person. Like with everything in life, you’re going to come across some problems. Unfortunately, anxiety can be the cause of a lot of them.
You already know what you’re like sometimes. Every now and again, you just go quiet as your thoughts take over your mind. Other times, you cancel plans at the last minute just because it all feels overwhelming. As well as all of that, you get mood swings a lot of the time and sometimes even end up furious.
In all honesty, those things may get on your partner’s nerves.
I know it’s hard to accept when the person you love is annoyed at you because it makes it feel like everything is falling apart. Despite that, you need to remember that they’re human too. They’re going to feel negatively sometimes and that’s okay. As long as they still love you, getting annoyed sometimes is normal.
The Way That They React Is Important
When you’re with the wrong person, all those little things that you do will be the catalyst. However, the terrible ways that they react to you and the tension that it causes are what will cause your relationship to implode. Being with the wrong person will sadly mean that they just won’t be able to handle your disorder.
The thing is that even if you didn’t have anxiety, that relationship would end anyway. It may not have ended because of your indecisiveness or panic attacks, but something else would have ripped it to shreds. You see, if you’re not compatible, something is always going to get in the way.
Fate has its own way of solving things. When you’re with that wrong person, the universe will find a way to pull you two apart. It may be painful, but it’s necessary. It means that you will have a chance to find love with someone who’s perfect for you.
You’re Going to Find Them
The end of a relationship is always a hard time. This is especially true when your disorder tells you that it’s all your fault. It can whisper in your ear and convince you that you’re completely unlovable and that you’ll always be alone. Please, don’t listen to its lies.
You are capable of finding love. Someday you’re going to meet the person who loves you in spite of all your flaws. When you’re terrified of the world, they’re going to hold you close to them, and when you need space, they’ll give it to you. They’ll be there to hold your hand when you just need a little encouragement and they won’t resent you when you need to cancel plans.
Most of all, they will not hold your disorder against you.
One day, you are going to find the right person. You are going to run into someone when you least expect it who will make you realize why it never worked with anyone else before. When you find that person, trust me, you’ll know. So, hold onto them and let them love you.
In all honesty, anxiety can be what destroys a relationship. However, that’s only true when that relationship is with two people who were never really meant for each other. If you’re with the right person, your disorder won’t matter. They will love you in spite of it and do everything that they can to support you. Anxiety could never destroy that kind of love.
Do you know someone with anxiety who’s struggling to find love? If so, share this article with them to let them know that the right person for them is out there somewhere.