As we embark on our fateful encounter with that special person, we’re swept up in our feelings for one another and the lovey-dovey allure of it all. But what keeps that fire burning so these emotions can elevate and reach the next level?
Of course, it’s an honest and transparent confab, or as most of us like to call it, the talking stage. Today, we’ll explore the ‘talking stage’ in relationships and explain why it is important for the evolution of deeper connections and the genesis of a true bond between partners.
So, without further ado, let’s get right to it!
A Page From History Books
Many would argue that the talking stage is merely a new concept made up by the millennials or the Gen Z. This would be partly true, as it is a new and reinvented take on a vintage and classic concept of courting.
Courting, as they called it back in the olden days, was a way for strapping princes or kings, young and old, to romantically chat up a fair maiden with the intention of marriage or courtship.
Something like “Greetings, my fair lady. I come from the House of Baileyfield (not a real place), and I seek your hand in marriage, so it may please our courts and kingdom” would do the trick.
And that’s probably all the rizz pick up lines it took to sweep a lady off her dainty feet!
While much has changed, the essence of courting, which is basically talking with the special person to build a foundation for a more meaningful and lasting connection, has remained the same.
The talking stage today is pivotal in relationships for reasons we’ll delve into later. With the advent of the Internet and online dating, it appears that this oft-debated talking stage sets the stage for relationships to flourish, if at all, or perish from the start.
What Does The Talking Stage Entail?
While the general idea about the talking stage is self-explanatory, there are a few distinct characteristics of this important phase in a relationship. Let’s look at them together, shall we?
1. Getting Acquainted
The main goal of a talking stage is to get acquainted with the person you want Cupid to shoot. You want to test the waters and see if they’re even willing to talk with you! Many guys and girls tend not to get the hint and then run themselves dry, talking and trying to spark interest.
If they’re not interested, move right along without hesitation. You’ve got nothing to lose; there are more fish in the sea that will be interested!
2. Compatibility Score
Talking stages underscore compatibility. This is where folks are trying to determine if they share common interests, values, and goals. But hear us out: compatibility is much more significant than having favorite shows or football teams in common.
What are your plans for the future? How ambitious are you both? What values do you share to better your relationship with each other? These are crucial questions that really tell you if you two will be compatible.
3. Emotional Investment
As your relationship evolves, so does your emotional investment as feelings develop. This can lead to excitement, anticipation, and sometimes uncertainty about the other person’s feelings. You divulge all of that in your talking stage.
4. Establishing Boundaries
Discussing boundaries may arise as both individuals navigate how much time, attention, and personal information they are comfortable sharing. The talking stage sets the tone for necessary boundaries to be set between the two to ensure a rift-free and understanding bond.
5. Potential for Intimacy
The talking stage sways the verdict on the potential for intimacy. While physical intimacy isn’t always involved here or even necessary, it creates a safe and consensual space for the romantics to talk and be honest.
6. To Be Continued
This is a ceaseless phase; you never stop talking, musing, and communicating with the one you like and eventually fall in love with. But yes, the initial talking stage sets the ground for how mutually empathetic and understanding you two will be in your journey together.
Help, I Can’t Get Out Of The Talking Stage!
Now, this is a dilemma many folks have in relationships. They find themselves circling back and forth, to and from, in what feels like a never-ending talking stage. This can be frustrating and often turns off interest for either or both parties.
How do you get out of a talking stage purgatory, you ask?
Well, there’s no one straight answer to this. Sometimes, you just wait and ride it out. You hope it eventually turns into something and eight times out of ten, that’s what happens. But what do you do in those two separate times when you feel stuck in endless gabs?
You let them know. Yes, this might take you aback, but if you aren’t honest from the get-go, you’re in for much disdain. Look, if you’re not getting what you want out of the relationship and it seems like you’re being strung along with no legitimate ends to meet with, you just let them know.
You politely tell them that you believe your time and patience are worth more than what you spend on them. And it’s best they tell you now what kind of future they see with you, or better yet, if they see one at all.
Both you and them have the right to know where the relationship is headed.
Conclusion
We hope you enjoyed our take on the talking stage in relationships. It’s necessary and steers you clear of a lot of duds you definitely don’t deserve. So go out there and embrace and indulge in the talking stage, but make sure not to be the hamster in the spinning wheel of infinite gabfests.
