To love someone so freely and unconditionally that you’re willing to be there for them and give them your heart, regardless of their feelings for you probably sounds like some romance novel you would enjoy reading.
But, the reality of loving someone who doesn’t love you back is much different. You give your whole life to another human being, but there’s nothing in return. You try hard to somehow make them love you, but the truth is… they could never see you with the same eyes you look at them.
And it is devastating. It hurts like hell…
But, most of us have been there and done that. And, we’re still here. Alive and well. Living. Breathing. Focusing on our inner- growth. More importantly. Learning from our mistakes.
That is how I know that you can do the same. Here’s how to cope with loving someone who doesn’t love you back:
1. TRY TO UNDERSTAND REJECTION
You’ve invested your whole heart and all of your emotions in this person. So, I can understand why it is hard for you to perceive this whole situation from a more objective point of view. But, regardless of what happens in your life, you should always try to find the reason behind every experience.
After all, you know what they say… “The bad news is nothing lasts forever; The good news is nothing lasts forever.” Every end is a new beginning.
2. YOUR REACTION TO THE REJECTION IS WHAT MATTERS THE MOST
It’s a cliché thing to say, but the power lies exactly in the way you react to this experience. If you allow yourself to drown in your sorrows, you’ll give the rejection a chance to eat you alive. But, if you decide to pull yourself together and stand back on your feet, you’ll see that life isn’t that bad after all. The way you experience it depends on your own perspective.
Don’t ever forget to stop and smell the flowers.
3. ACCEPT THE EXPERIENCE, LEARN FROM THE LESSON
Don’t fall into despair, instead, try to find the reason why life is challenging you with such painful experiences. Accept the lesson and learn from it.
How can this help you evolve? If you had the chance to go back, what would you have done differently?
4. REJECTION IS A PART OF OUR LIVES
After all, everything is just a part of our lives. We cannot always hope for the best without being prepared for the worst. There has to be a balance in this universe. Otherwise, we wouldn’t appreciate the truly incredible moments in our lives.
So, remember, we cannot avoid the things that are meant to happen to us. But, what we can do is accept them as a lesson and let them shape us into stronger, much braver individuals who won’t be afraid to keep going and explore everything life has to offer.
5. THE ONLY APPROVAL YOU NEED IS YOUR OWN
Listen to me. Self-love is the only thing that will help you overcome the sadness and pain of romantic rejection. It will be difficult, it will take some time for you to heal, but in the end, you’ll understand why it is essential for you to let go of the things that don’t help you grow and devote your full attention to your inner-self.
The only person you need approval and acceptance from is yourself. Forgive yourself and move on.