TRUE LOVE FOCUSES ON GROWTH AND IMPROVEMENT
A healthy relationship is two individuals who want to improve their relationship by becoming the best versions they can be. When there is true love, there is a great amount of self-love involved and both partners keep their individuality while accepting and loving the other person for who they are.
Toxic relationships, on the other hand, partners focus on the relationship only and how the relationship defines both of them. They are selfish and want only what’s best for them, they don’t even think of the other person. In toxic relationships, there’s no room for improvement.
TRUE LOVE EMBRACES AND LOVES THE OTHER PERSON WITH ALL THEIR FLAWS AND GOOD SIDES
True love understands that everyone is different and therefore, couples don’t try to change the other person. They love and accept them as they are – flaws and all.
Toxic love looks only on the flaws and gets obsessed with changing the other person into someone they are not. That is not love. That is an obsession with the idea of love and what it should look like.
TRUE LOVE IS CALM, PATIENT, AND COMES FROM A PLACE OF LOVE AND CARING
When two partners truly love each other, there is mutual respect and they come from a loving and caring place. During arguments, there is still a dose of peace and calmness because for them it is more important to solve the problem than being right. Their ego is not exposed. Their conversations are positive and full of love.
When there is toxicity between them, the conversations and arguments soon turn into fighting, name-calling, shouting, and blame contests.
TRUE LOVE HAS NO FEAR OF SPENDING TIME APART OR DOING SOMETHING OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP
In true love, both partners have their separate lives. They have their own hobbies and interests outside of the relationship and there is no jealousy or fear between the partners to spend time apart.
In toxic love, on the other hand, there is jealousy, envy, and anger whenever one partner decides to do something that doesn’t include the other person.
True love has a deep intimacy that is carefully nurtured. The bond is strong and it sustains the hardships that every relationship faces. Toxic love can never survive the storms and the relationship is doomed to fail.