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This Goes To Every Woman Who Has Ever Had Her Heart Broken By A Toxic Man


This goes to every woman out there who has ever had her heart broken and her soul bruised. This goes to every woman whose hopes have been shattered by a toxic man. Let these words cure your wounds and mend your broken heart.

My heart was broken once too. I know how it feels.

I know how it feels when you feel weak and unimportant. I know how it feels when you’re feeling taken for granted.

I know how it hurts when your heart is broken by the person you love the most. 

I know all this because I’ve already experienced that. I went through hell and back for someone who didn’t deserve anything from me. Someone who didn’t deserve my trust. My respect. My love. Someone who didn’t deserve me.

So, here I am. I’m ready to bare my soul to you. And I truly hope that my story is the cure you need to heal your pain and start believing in yourself again.

So, here are a few words about the man that I was in a relationship with and how I healed.

I dated a man whom I thought I knew well.

But I didn’t. I didn’t know who he was. Because when I started dating him, he was the sweetest and most compassionate and loving person. He was always patient with me. He made me feel like my life was a fairy tale.

However, as soon as he knew he had me wrapped around his little finger and that I wouldn’t leave, he started showing his real face. He proudly showed me his true colors and intentions. He fearlessly showed me who he really was. He was a selfish, manipulative, cruel person. He was heartless.

I dated a man that took advantage of me and my kindness.

I can’t tell how many times I made excuses for his mistakes and hurtful words. I can’t tell how many times I overlooked his selfishness, indifference, and bad behavior.

Call me naïve. Call me stupid. Call me crazy for letting myself do all this. But I was deeply and madly in love with him. I wanted him to be the person I thought he was. I wanted him to be the person that managed to steal my heart the moment I saw him first.

But the truth was that he was never the kind, tender, and loving person I thought he was. He was just someone I created in my own mind. And I loved that person. I loved him so bad that I believed his lies and allowed him to manipulate me.

I dated a man that made me feel unworthy.

I was weak and I let him make me lose my self-confidence. He made me doubt my qualities and strength. He made me doubt myself.

He made me feel ashamed of who I was. Every time I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw my flaws. My insecurities. My fears. My mistakes.

Now I know that the greatest mistake I’ve ever made in my life was choosing him.

I dated a man who made me doubt everyone around me.

Because of him, I believed that all people are hypocrites and liars. Because of him, I stopped looking for the good in others. Because of him, I stopped believing that true love existed.

I dated a man that was incapable of loving anyone but himself.

I loved him honestly and unconditionally. I loved him from the bottom of my heart. I was never afraid to sacrifice my own needs, priorities, and wishes for his happiness. I was always willing to make compromises for the sake of our relationship. Why?

Because I truly loved him and wanted to make him happy. Because I wanted our relationship to last forever.

But it was all in vain. He never loved me. He never appreciated the things I was doing for him. He never appreciated my efforts. My love. Me.

He never bothered to get to know me better. To reach the deepest parts of my soul – the parts where I keep my insecurities and fears. The parts that make the person I am.

I dated a man who did whatever he could to make himself feel superior to me.

He was so manipulative that he always found a way to make every conversation about himself. Our entire relationship was all about him. He never bothered to ask how I spent the day or whether I needed something. He never bothered to make me feel loved and desired.

It never occurred to him that I felt lonelier when I was around him than when I was alone. All he ever cared about was having the power in our relationship. And he had it. I let him have it.

Yes, I allowed him to control our relationship because I never lost hope that he’d change. That he’d realize how much I loved him. That he’d love me back.

I dated a man who made me the woman I am today.

Leaving him was the first step to the new me. Strong, wise, resilient, confident – that’s who I am today. I know my worth and I can see all my good sides. I’m aware of all my weaknesses and imperfections and I embrace them. I’m not ashamed of them.

Now I feel able to smile again.

Now I don’t let anyone play with my feelings and diminish my confidence.

Now I don’t let anyone determine and shape my happiness and worth.

I’ve realized that the only person who is responsible for my own happiness, inner peace, and sense of self-worth is – ME . And no one else.

Riley Cooper