How confident are you really? How confident do you feel on day to day basis? When we have low-confidence we often devalue ourselves and our abilities in front of others and pushing ourselves down. Again, having too much confidence can make us arrogant or too much self-sufficient.
Grab a paper and a pen because here are 12 questions that can tell you how confident you are really and help you find a healthy balance.
Question 1: Are you a positive person?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 2: Would you like to appear on a TV game show?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 3: Would giving a long speech at your best friend’s wedding embarrass you?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 4: Would you like to meet royalty?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 5: If given a chance, would you pilot an airplane?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 6: Do you feel confident while crossing the road?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 7: Have you disagreed with your boss at work?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 8: Does driving in a bad traffic bother you?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 9: Would you take the ferry if it were stormy?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 10: Does being naked in front of your friends make you feel uncomfortable?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 11: Do you think that attack is the best form of defense?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
Question 12: Would you contradict a traffic warden if you thought you were in the right?
A: Yes.
B: No.
C: I don’t know.
ANSWERS:
Mostly As: YOU ARE SURE OF WHAT YOU ARE DOING.
You are the perfect person to have around when the stakes are high. You want to get involved in everything that happens around you. For instance, if your work department has to be completely reorganized, you want to be involved in everything in order to make a good impression or perhaps get a better position for yourself.
In the same situation, a person with lower confidence would be very bothered by the changes that are coming or fear the redefinition of their position at work. However, try not to show too much confidence or overestimate your abilities because others might perceive you as arrogant. And remember, success is earned – not ordered.
Mostly Bs: YOU LACK CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF AND YOUR ABILITIES.
You are rather too modest or too nervous in nature and sometimes this leads you to belittle yourself. The majority of people appreciate modesty, especially the good and the great people in the world. So, it may be a good idea to take a step back and consider what you’ve accomplished so far and what talents you possess in order to compare yourself to others who seem confident in themselves.
You may be positively surprised when you look at your accomplishments and be more willing to believe in yourself and your capabilities in the future. If you fear taking the lead in the company of other people and that’s what’s causing your lack of self-confidence, try to mingle with others more. If you are good at swimming, join a swim club. Exercise your strengths. The more your confidence grows, the more people will trust you, and the more you’ll succeed and anything you are doing.
Mostly Cs: YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF ENOUGH FOR OTHER PEOPLE TO TRUST YOU.
You are relatively self-confident, and you are ready to take calculated risks to succeed. However, you still prefer security and you avoid taking excessive risks. Even if you are confident in your abilities, you make sure not to be excessively so, and always make your decisions after thinking through all the options.
Stay aware of your attitude to risk and keep trying to inch yourself out of your comfort zone in non-threatening situations so you can build a stronger capacity for dealing with any fears. Get comfortable with failing as well as succeeding. This will build your confidence because you’ll be able to handle anything that life throws at you – good and bad.
What is your result? How confident are you?
