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Outgrow Modern Dating: Likes And Chatting Make An Online Relationship, Not A Real One

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Don’t be flattered by that person who likes all of your selfies on Instagram. 

Be flattered by that person who likes you for you: with your messy hair and no makeup, with your unshaved beard and beer breath. 

Don’t be flattered by the person who sends you heart emojis and memes, or sends you a good night text. That takes a second.

Be flattered by the person who is willing to change his relationship status for you and hold your hand in public. No doubts or hesitations. 

True, genuine love is not rendered by our phones and the texts we send with them. It is not rendered by virtual connections, on the contrary, it is rendered by two people going on dates, communicating, and finding their mutual hobbies and adventures. 

So, don’t be flattered if someone is acting all perfect on social media, but haven’t introduced you to their friends or family yet. 

Be flattered when you get to meet the inner circle of a person thanks to their own initiative. 

Be flattered when they welcome you in their world and shout out from the rooftop you are together.

Modern-day dating is often about physical beauty and who gets to text first. It’s also about appearances. 

What was that thing about appearances? Oh, they are deceiving. 

Virtual relationships are an inevitable stage of modernity. I get that. But after the likes, the comments, and the perfect selfies, you need something more. That something “more” is what will make the difference between a fling and a relationship. 

Show genuine interest in that person you want to be with, invest both in spending time, and creating memories with them.

Don’t be flattered by someone who gives you presents and plans special dinners for your birthday or for Valentine’s day only.

Be flattered if that special someone wants to spend every night with you and gives you presents on a random day.  

Sometimes, what you see is what you get. So, if that special someone is not willing to go the extra mile, take things at face value. If they want to form a life with you and grow old, you’ll notice how they are more present in your life than on social media. 

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Nora Connel