When a person says, “that was the worst thing that has ever happened to me,” we usually imagine the most horrible scenarios. However, oftentimes, being in a relationship with a narcissist is something that belongs to this group of the most horrible things that can happen to someone.
A narcissist is a person who is unable to love anyone but himself. They are very manipulative and selfish people. They are masters of subtle mental, emotional, and psychological abuse. They inflict damage and scars on the inside of the victim’s body, so that’s why this form of abuse cannot be seen right away.
So, when a narcissist says, “I love you”, don’t believe them.
Don’t believe them because a narcissist is unable to love another human being other than themselves. When a narcissist tells you that they love you, it actually means that they are loving the way that you would do anything to win their love. They love that you are desperate to be loved by them and that you would do anything for them. In this way, they feel superior to you because they know that they will never love you the way you need to be loved.
Don’t believe them because a narcissist only loves the control that they have over you and your happiness. A narcissist loves how they can quickly get under your skin and manipulate you into doing what they want. Whenever you are vulnerable and show them that they have hurt you, the narcissist is happy. They are happy because seeing you in pain means that they have total control over you and your emotions.
Don’t believe them because a narcissist is focused only on their wants and needs. They want all your life to revolve around them. They want you to be always by their side and feed their ego with immense amounts of Narcissistic Supplies (love, attention, devotion, care etc.).
Don’t believe them because the narcissist adores to lie and play mind games with you to make you see them as your mini God. And, can you guess what is their favorite game? Gaslighting. This manipulative mind game is another form of emotional abuse where the narcissist makes the victim doubt themselves, their words, their reality, and even their sanity. The narcissist will subtly make it look like everything is your fault and that you are the crazy one in the relationship.
Don’t believe them because a narcissist says “I love you” only when they fear that you may leave them. If you abandon them, they will no longer have Narcissistic supplies and someone like you who is looking at them like they are a God. They can never let that happen.
What a narcissist truly loves about you is how easy it is for them to break you emotionally. They love how you would do everything to make them feel comfortable and happy. They love that you are an easy target for their manipulative tricks. They love that they can feel like a God when they are around you. They love when you are sad because that means that they are superior to you and they can break you every time.
The narcissist only loves the feeling that you’ll always love them and have their back and you’ll stay with them even though you know that they would never do the same for you.
Finally, remember – a narcissist will never change. Neither for you nor for anyone. And it is not your fault that you fell in love with them. You just need to have the courage to let them go and find the love and happiness that you deserve.
