Love is blind. And there is no greater truth than that.
It’s blind because it makes you fall for people who aren’t always good for you. It is blind because it shuts off your brain and it makes you a prisoner of your own mind. It is blind because it makes you lose your sense of self accept the things that are clearly bad for you.
I know, I know… Too pessimistic for a start, huh?
Unfortunately YES, but that’s the truth.
Getting out of a toxic relationship might be hard, but it is something that you must do. Because the more you maintain your status quo, the more painful it gets. And the more painful it gets, the harder it is to save yourself.
Here are 6 methods to walk away from a toxic relationship and move on with your life:
1. LEARN TO LET GO
If a relationship isn’t working, it will eventually fall apart. It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, or how hard you tried to save your relationship. Because at the end of the day, what is meant to be, will survive regardless of the heavy storms.
That is why it is truly important to learn to let go. Staying when there’s nothing left to hold on is just madness. Find the strength within you and let go.
2. TRY TO UNDERSTAND THAT YOU DESERVE BETTER
You can love someone from the very bottom of your precious heart. You can give all of your soul to them. You can devote yourself to making them happy. But, if they don’t love you back, everything you do is pointless. It just isn’t enough.
You have to know your worth. You have to protect yourself. More importantly, you have to realize that you deserve a lot more than you’re settling for.
Life has amazing experiences in store for you. All you have to do is take a leap of faith and dive into the unknown.
3. STOP WAITING FOR YOUR LOVER TO CHANGE
The biggest mistake a person trapped in a toxic relationship can make is to wait for their partner to actually change.
Look, I know it is hard to hear and accept this, but this rarely happens. You cannot expect them to change just because you said so. It doesn’t work that way. If a person decides to change, the change has to come from within. Otherwise, it is simply forced. And you know how it is… if you have to force anything, you better let it go.
4. ACCEPT THE FACT THAT THIS WILL HURT
There’s no easy way out of this. I wish there was a shortcut out of this nightmare, but there isn’t one. In all honesty, this experience will probably be the hardest thing you’ll do in life. It will break your heart, it will crash your soul and it will rob you of your hopes.
But it will also teach you a lesson. It will make you a stronger person. It will show you that everything in life is temporary. And that everything that happens to you happens for a reason.
5. CRY YOUR HEART OUT
It will help you get rid of your pain. Trust me on this.
Most people expect us to be strong when dealing with such difficult experiences. But, how can they know what’s best for us?
You try to be strong, you try to get your life together, you try to look like nothing is bothering you, and then all of a sudden, every emotion you carry inside bursts out of your chest. Why would you do this to yourself?
Stop pretending that everything is fine. If you feel like there’s a brick stuck in your throat, cry it out. Scream as loud as you want, shout from the rooftops, but never hold your pain in. Never swallow back your tears. Let them flow and heal your soul.
6. TAKE AS MUCH TIME AS YOU NEED
You have all the time in the world. Take as much as you need.
But, most importantly, know that you don’t have to go through this on your own. There are people who love you and would do anything to help you.
7. FOCUS ON YOURSELF
Turn over a new leaf and promise yourself that from now on you will do everything to protect that fragile heart of yours. Let your past experiences serve as reminders that no matter how dark life gets, everting we go through eventually makes us stronger and wiser…
You are strong, my darling! I believe in you. The only thing you need to do is to start believing in yourself. Can you do that?