I get it. You are the bubbly one. The positive one. The strong one. The one who offers great advice and others turn for help. People are not accustomed to seeing you sad, and that’s because you have always concealed your emotions and put on a brave face and a smile instead.
But, isn’t it tiring to go through life with a façade over your face? Wouldn’t you be more comfortable to be yourself and be free to express your emotions without other people judging you or calling you weak?
We all have bad days. We all struggle. Life is not easy. But, pretending that everything is fine and being nice to everyone even though inside you are falling apart is exhausting.
How many times have you answered, ‘I am fine” when someone asked you “How are you?” How many times have you lied to yourself and to the other person? You think you did the right thing because according to the social convention people don’t need to hear about your problems.
But have you? Wouldn’t you feel better if you could just say “I am not okay, and I haven’t been for a while. I am struggling with my work and life in general. It seems as everything is falling apart and it’s breaking me”?
Of course, you are not accustomed to opening up to people, but you should respect and own your feelings. They are a part of you. And if someone loves and cares about you, they will understand and support you.
It is okay to be sad. It is okay to be angry. It is okay to be hurt. It is okay to feel as if your whole world is falling apart. It is okay to panic and to lose your ‘calmness.’ It is okay to feel anxious. It is okay to be scared. It is okay to have emotions.
So, please, allow yourself to feel and be honest with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Let your words speak what’s in your heart. Tell your story. You may inspire other people to open up and face their emotions.
This world needs more of that.
