You don’t strike me as a fool. I really do believe that you are smarter than this.
I really do believe that you are not someone who accepts less than what they deserve. That you don’t settle for crumbs. That you cannot be easily tricked and manipulated when it comes to love. That you are not a woman who is desperate for attention…
And yet your actions speak otherwise.
It’s clear as day. You are making excuses for him… You try so hard to convince yourself that this might be it that you are blind to the truth. You don’t see how badly he treats you. You comfort yourself with all of these sweet little lies that he keeps telling you but deep down you know it…
Deep down you know exactly what you’re through yourself into…
You know that he’s not really busy, secluded, withdrawn, shy, cautious or hurt. Deep down you know exactly what’s going on. You are with someone who isn’t capable of loving you the same way that you love him. But you are too afraid to admit it to yourself. You are too afraid to face the truth.
Because you know what love feels like. You’ve felt it once before.
If he really loved you like he says, he’d never stop fighting for you.
If he really cared for you, he would never stop proving his love for you…
Sure, he could be saying all these things to justify his actions. And all of these things might even be true. He might really be busy, or shy, cautious, hurt or whatever he says he is. But here’s the thing. If the love was real, and I mean real, real, he would do anything to prove it to you. He would overcome every issue and every struggle that he’s going through to be there for you. Most importantly, he would do his best to make you aware that regardless of how he feels, he is really trying hard. For you and for the love that you two share.
But he’s not doing that… And you know it…
You see it every day. You feel in his words, in his actions, in his doubts, in his absence, in his indifference. It is not because he’s shy and it is definitely not because he’s too busy. He doesn’t really love you. He doesn’t have the same feelings that you have for him. No matter how much he tries, no matter how much he lies, he cannot reciprocate those exact feelings to you. And he probably never will…
So, please. Stop lying to yourself. Stop convincing yourself that men are simply not expressive enough when it comes to showing love. Just stop thinking that your love is powerful enough for the both of you. It’s not. It takes two to tango and it takes two to make a relationship work. You cannot make him see you with the same eyes that you see him.
The truth is staring you right in the face. Have the courage to look back at it and embrace it. Accept the situation and just move on. Walk away from everything that feels forced.
1. You are not meant for each other. 2. He doesn’t really love you. 3. There are better things coming your way.
