Stop asking yourself why he’s not there for you the way you are for him. Stop wondering why it’s not working between you two. Stop trying to force him to love you. Stop making excuses for his absence. Stop justifying his actions. Stop convincing yourself that time will help your relationship get better. Stop wasting your nights crying until you fall asleep. Stop hoping that one day he’ll change into the person that you desperately need in your life.
STOP it all together. Just STOP. Stop trying to avoid the truth and face the reality of your life.
He’s not all that into you… Yes, I know it hurts. It hurts like hell. But he’s not in love with you. Not the way you want him to be. Not the way you are in love with him.
And I hate being the bearer of bad news… But it is finally time for you to accept that.
No, he doesn’t need time. He’s not confused. He’s not intimidated by your strength. He’s not as busy as he says he is. He is not taking time to heal. He is not looking for answers. And he most definitely isn’t doing his best to make it up to you.
If he constantly makes excuses for every little thing he does, he’s not into you.
Trust me when I say this, for I know what real love feels like. I’ve felt it. I’ve felt what’s like to be played and I’ve felt what is like to be loved. And this is not it. This is not love, my dear. This is something that you need to get inside your head and move on. For your own good.
If a man really loves you, he will move mountains for you. He’ll do anything to keep you around. He will go out of his way to pursue you and make you the happiest woman alive. He will not be afraid to show and prove his love to you. In fact, he will be thrilled to open his heart and give you the key to his soul.
If a man really loves you, he will fight for you. He will never let anyone or anything stand between the two of you. He will never ever let you doubt his intentions and feelings for you. But most importantly, he will never ever make you beg for attention.
Because a man who genuinely loves you and plans on spending his future with you will never stop choosing your every single day, over and over again. A man who really wants to be with you will call to check up on you. He will text you first, tuck you in bed, stay the entire night in your embrace, and share his entire life with you. He will be there. He will be a part of your life physically, mentally and emotionally.
So, don’t waste yourself away trying to make people love you. I know you believe in love. I know you want to be loved. But you are not meant to be together. And that’s fine.
One day you’ll meet the love of your life. Until then, learn to shut the door to everything and everyone that make you feel like you are not enough and walk away.
