Yes, I’m the girl who tends to maintain a cooler, more positive outlook on life. I’ve always believed that 60%, maybe 70% of the stress in life, is caused by our responses to the external factors.
So, I don’t stress over trivialities. I don’t get needy if you want your private space. I don’t get jealous if you choose to go out with the boys. I don’t get mad if you were busy and forgot to call. In other words, I give out my f*cks carefully.
But, let’s make things clear. If I choose to cultivate a liberal, independent and aloof behavior, that doesn’t give you the permission to stomp on my heart and treat me without respect.
Even though I couldn’t care less about those childish, jealousy-inspired games, when it comes to a relationship, I want it all. Simple as that.
I expect you to be here and do everything one relationship needs to prosper. Otherwise, I’m gone.
1. I NEED SOMEONE WHO WILL BE MY CHEERLEADER
It’s not that I need someone who will make me feel worthy. I want a man who won’t be afraid to be my cheerleader. I need someone who would support me, every step of the way, not a person who’d discourage me from achieving my dreams.
2. I WANT A GUY WHO WON’T BE AFRAID TO EXPRESS HIS EMOTIONS TO ME
I can’t be with a person who won’t bother to express his emotions to me. If I engage in a relationship, I need it to be complete.
I want someone who will be pleased to undress his soul and lay his heart in front of me. I want a man who is not afraid to love. More importantly, someone who is not afraid to feel love, in all its glorious forms and realms.
3. I WANT A PERSON WHO WILL RESPECT ME
If you can’t bother to show me respect, you don’t deserve me. I need a partner, a teammate, an equal part of the relationship. Someone who will care about the things I personally respect.
If you can’t give me this, then I’m out.
4. I NEED A MAN WHO WILL SHOW ME I’M HIS PRIORITY
Just because I’m not the ultimate drama queen that doesn’t mean that I don’t deserve the utmost attention and love from someone.
I don’t want someone who will treat me like I’m a one-night-stand kind of a girl. I won’t allow becoming anything less than everything.
5. I WANT SOMEONE WHO WILL IMAGINE HIS FUTURE WITH ME
More importantly, I can’t waste my time on a guy who can’t picture his future with me. I’m sorry, but I am an old-fashioned kind of gal. If I engage in a relationship with someone, it’s for real.
No meaningless flings, no one-night-stands, no “we’re just hanging out”. It’s the real thing or nothing at all.
6. I NEED A GUY WHO WILL BE COMPLETELY HONEST ABOUT HIS INTENTIONS
I need to know what is it that you want from this relationship. I need to be able to talk to you about everything that bothers me. I need to feel safe to actually express my deepest emotions to you.
And that can only happen if you are honest with me. If you keep sending me mixed signals, and if I see that you have no interest in making this serious, then I’m gone.
I can’t waste my time on wrong people. I have a life to live.
7. I WANT A MAN WHO WILL UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF THOSE LITTLE THINGS
“If you want to be my lover…” you have to understand the importance of those small, meaningful things in life.
I’m serious, and I don’t have crazy expectations. No, I don’t want you to buy me a useless, over-priced bouquet of 100 roses. I’m thinking hand-picked flowers, random cuddles and dinner dates, relaxing after-work massages, cute breakfasts in bed.
I want someone who would love doing these things with me.
8. I WANT SOMEONE WHO WILL ALWAYS BE THERE
Most importantly, I need a person who will always be there just like I will be for him. I want someone who won’t be afraid to show up at my door at 2 am and cheers me up with a hilarious comedy and a box full of chocolates.
I want a person with whom I’ll share my happiness as well as my sorrow. A man who will hold my hand and walk this journey called life with me.