How many of you were asked the famous question of “Where do you see yourself in 10 years?” I am sure that his question is standard both during interviews and during Thanksgiving dinner. Some of you know exactly what to say because you have everything planned out. But, if you are like me, you can’t tell what you will be doing tomorrow let alone in 5 or 10 years.
I understand both groups of people. Some like to plan out everything because it gives them a sense of security and comfort and the necessary confidence to follow their plans, and others like to have a blank sheet and plan every day as they feel in the moment.
I was once someone who always had a plan. I even carried my little planner everywhere with me and crossing off the things I did was giving me an inexplicable amount of pleasure because I was feeling productive – like I am doing something valuable in my life. I was happy when my life was going according to my plans. However, when something was not going right, I was utterly unhappy and disappointed.
Many say that change is good, but what if everything changes at once? What then? I am a person that doesn’t like changes, and yet they were happening one after another.
But now, when I think about everything I’ve been through and all the changes that occurred that I’ve overcome – I smile. I smile because there isn’t a single thing that I would want to be different. That’s why I now believe that everything that happens in life, happens for a reason.
There are times when life is messing my plans and making me anxious, times when everything seems to go down. And there are also times when things are going so good and amazing things are happening to me. I live for those moments. But I also live for the bad ones too. Because if it weren’t for the bad days, I would never be the person I am today.
The truth is, we don’t have much control over how our life will turn out to be. We don’t have a book that reveals our destiny and that has all the steps we need to take to follow it.
All the wrong turns, the detours, the mistakes… are what shape our lives. We can neither stop them from happening nor we can control them. They happen for a reason – to teach us something, to make us better people, stronger and resilient.
But someday, we will all look back into them and smile because they have led us to where we were meant to be. And we wouldn’t have it any other way.
The most important thing that we should all do is stay grateful for the things we have accomplished so far in life. Maybe you don’t believe this right now, but I guarantee you that you will. I am still learning how to be grateful for every single day. I thank God for my job, for my amazing friends, for my lovely boyfriend, for my great family… they all light up my world. Sometimes, we forget how truly lucky we are to have all that.
Therefore, live your life without worrying about the future. Trust the process. Have faith in God that everything that needs to happen will happen and you will end up in the right direction.