There’s something I have to say first before I start talking about how to make a man committed towards a relationship with you, and that is: commitment is something that ultimately depends on the person you are with. It’s not something you can force on to people, since if you do, it’ll only end badly for both sides.
But you can still play your cards properly to let the other side be more interested in you. This will give you more opportunities to get to know them, as well as get them to know you better. That way, you’ll be able to decide whether that person is a good option for you or not. If they are not, it’s always better to end things as fast as possible.
Because there’s something a lot of people need to understand, it’s always better to be alone than in bad company. And as mentioned in this article, a lot of people look for partners to fill a sense of loneliness, whereas on such occasions people should actually look to be alone and improve themselves as much as possible.
Arguably speaking, although a lot of people may disagree with me, one should look for a partner when they feel positive enough about the idea, and they are not carrying emotional baggage or projecting unrealistic ideas onto their partners.
At this point is where honesty and transparency becomes an incredible weapon. You might be scared of being your true self with someone else, but believe me when I say this: it’ll save you a lot of time, and will possibly lead to a truly healthy relationship.
What You Should Look For
It’s difficult to say whether the person you are dealing with is a good option for you or not until some time has passed and you both have dedicated some effort to get to know each other.
A lot of people don’t know how a healthy relationship looks, because they compare the current relationship or possible candidate with previous experiences, or project their unrealistic expectations towards the other party. These two things are rather unhealthy, common habits people partake in.
In order to appreciate what you are experiencing, you should improve yourself as much as possible, and let yourself taste what you are going through with other people. Even if it ends up being a bad experience, you will be able to learn from it for the next occasion. Nothing in this life comes without a price, but paying such a price may make you wiser in the future.
In case you are interested in how to improve yourself as a person, there’s a bunch of mental and emotional aspects you can consider. To learn more, you can navigate to this website for more detailed information.
A healthy relationship should have good communication and chemistry. When I say good chemistry, I’m not talking about liking the same things. Although it’s nice to have your significant other liking your hobbies as well, you can express yourself better. Ultimately, good chemistry is more about having the same morals and goals in life.
It doesn’t matter how good you are at communicating, if you both have different goals and morals, you won’t be able to resonate between yourselves. If you don’t want children, but your partner does, or if you want to keep working and your partner doesn’t, these types of things can lead to unhealthy relationships, so you should avoid such situations.
Another thing that’s important in this type of situation is trust. Making sure that the person you are dealing with is trustworthy and that you can also be transparent and share yourself truthfully, is a really good sign, and something you should properly cherish.
Other things to add include a sense of self, meaning that even though you are sharing yourself with someone, you still feel yourself and that nothing has changed along the way. A lot of people don’t notice when they are too immersed in each other, and that always leads to unhealthy habits.
A good relationship is something you can enjoy without having to stay together 24/7. Something that even in silence is enjoyable and things don’t get awkward or uncomfortable when the other side is doing their thing.
Of course, there are other important aspects of a healthy relationship we can cover such as physical intimacy and sexual compatibility, a similar sense of humor, a group of mutual interests, and overall, a good methodology when it comes to dealing with problems and conflict.
If you follow these examples, you might be able to notice the good sides of a person… But what about the bad sides? For that reason, I’d like to cover something else: red flags.
When that Person is not for You
For those who don’t know, a red flag is a sign that shows someone’s bad behavior. It’s like a big red sign telling you “hey, this person might not be what you are looking for”, but the funny story about is that a lot of people choose not to pay attention to these red flags.
There’s a lot of red flags you can pay attention to, like the ones mentioned here, https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-relationship#red-flags, but I’m going to showcase some of them so you can get a general idea.
If your partner doesn’t respect you as a person, and constantly belittles you and hurt your feelings, that’s a red flag. Someone who doesn’t want to spend as much time with you or doesn’t share as much personal information no matter how much time you spend with them is also a bad sign.
If you feel you are providing too much weight to the balance, and the relationship feels unequal and that you are putting much more effort than the other side… that’s a red flag.
Another really bad sign that you should be aware of is emotional manipulation. Lots of people become manipulative when they know that the other side is about to leave them, thus, become emotionally hurtful and threat the other party to commit suicide or inflict self-injuries. In those cases, it’s better to talk to your family or friends, and even calling the police might be a good option.
Remember… It’s always better to be alone than in bad company!