When you constantly find yourself in toxic situations that take a toll on your emotional and mental wellbeing, you may not realize that the problem is not you – but your choice of people that you give your energy to.
You are not the one chasing people away. You don’t have commitment issues. There is nothing wrong with you. And the reason why no one commits to you is because of your poor choice of potential partners.
Because, when you choose partners that are wrong for you, you will question everything. You will question the clothes you wear, the things you say, and so on and so on. You will overthink and second-guess everything because you won’t be able to understand why they won’t commit to you. So, you will start feeling like there is something you are doing wrong.
When you are dating the wrong person, it is easy to get confused and insecure about yourself. However, I repeat, there is nothing wrong with how you look and there is nothing wrong with your personality. What’s wrong is your standards when it comes to relationships.
You should raise your standards. You shouldn’t allow just anyone near your heart.
Of course, you can’t control when someone catches your eye, but it is up to you whether you will allow them into your world. You need to become more selective. You need to watch out for red flags and protect your heart. Otherwise, you will be left heartbroken. Someone will either broke up with you all of a sudden, ghost you or string you along and treat you casually. In turn, you will start feeling worthless even though that is not true.
You are a catch and you should treat yourself as one.