Sometimes life throws things our way which we are not ready for. It throws things at us that are difficult to accept and deal with. The people that we truly care about can leave us or the ones that we genuinely and unconditionally love can betray us when we least expect it.
Indeed, there are so many hardships that life throws our way: heartbreak, abandonment, injury, illness, death of a loved one. And whether we saw it coming or we didn’t, the feeling is always the same: We are heartbroken. We are devastated.
But, we are also confused. We bombard ourselves with questions, such as: “Why me?” or “Why did this happen to me?” And we fear that we’ll never be able to heal. And these questions and thoughts cause us to suffer even more.
Unfortunately, some people are reluctant to admit that they need emotional healing. It’s easier for them to ignore their emotional pain than face it.
But, the truth is that when you’re faced with some difficult problem or pain, admitting to yourself that you’re emotionally suffering is a prerequisite for healing.
Here are 6 warning signs you are emotionally suffering:
1. You have poor self-care.
When one is emotionally suffering, they can easily stop taking care of themselves. They can start neglecting basic household chores, such as taking out the trash or wiping dust or even stop taking showers. Even exercising or eating healthy food can become a chore for them.
2. You easily get distracted.
In your attempt to avoid facing your problem, you tend to distract yourself. You tend to keep yourself busy in any way possible so as to divert attention away from your pain.
But, what you need to know is that constant interruptions of this sort can cause you to feel overwhelmed, increase your stress, and reduce your productivity. So, to prevent this, make sure you resist the need for distracting yourself when you’re faced with a difficult situation.
3. You frequently have mood swings.
You feel like you’re on an emotional roller coaster. You’re happy and calm one moment, and anxious the next. You can often find yourself acting irrationally and lashing out at other people.
Your mood swings are so frequent that they have also caused your sleep patterns to change. You either sleep too much or you can’t fall asleep at all.
Frequently having mood swings can make you feel overwhelmed and exhausted. You can prevent this by admitting to yourself that you’re emotionally suffering and embarking on a healing journey.
4. Little, irrelevant things set you off.
Think before you act – what was that?
Even the smallest, most unimportant things can make you lose your temper and start yelling at those around you. It’s like you don’t have control over your reactions. It’s like you’re not yourself.
5. You follow the same old, monotonous routine.
You can often find yourself doing the same things, dating the same type of people, or dealing with the same kind of problems over and over again. It is as if you cannot get out of this negative cycle.
What you need to do so as to break free from this cycle is to find out what exactly you need to change in your life. This change can mean quitting your current job and getting a new one, ending a relationship, distancing yourself from some people, or even moving to a new location.
Although change can be scary, know that the sooner you make the necessary changes in your life, the faster you’ll emotionally heal.
6. You find it hard to trust others.
You find it difficult to open up to and trust other people because you think that no one understands you. You think no one is genuinely interested in your problems or pain. You think everyone around you is solely interested in judging you and making fun of your problems.
But, what you always need to keep in mind is that the people who truly love you and care about you will always want to listen to your problems and help you. They’ll always be there for you and offer you their support.