We all know someone who when they enter the room they make everyone feel bad about themselves. These masters of manipulation have no mercy and no consideration for other people’s feelings. They are very difficult people to deal with, and they only add up stress and toxicity in your life.
And while the most effective way to deal with them is avoiding them at all cost, the first thing you should do is being able to recognize them.
Here are 8 signs by a Zen master that will help you recognize any toxic people immediately.
1. DRAMA ALL THE WAY
They are the most negative and pessimistic people you’ll ever meet. They always have some kind of a problem in their life that they can’t solve. They are always depressed and worries. And if you try to help them in any way or offer them advice – they don’t let you. They shut you off by telling you that they know it won’t work, so why bother.
2. THEY HAVE CONTROL ISSUES
They treat other people as pawns to get what they want. They manipulate others to behave in a way that fits them and helps them achieve their purpose.
3. THEY ALWAYS HAVE A LOT TO SAY BUT DON’T BOTHER TO LISTEN
Toxic people are often narcissists whose focus is only on them. They think only about the most important person to them. Can you guess who is it? Themselves, of course. And if someone gets in their way they will disregard and stamp over them without any consideration for their feelings.
4. THEY DISGUISE THEIR LACK OF COMMON COURTESY AS “HONESTY”
Sure, they know they hurt you with the comment they gave you last night. They know they were too harsh towards you, but it was for your own good. They were being honest. And if you get offended by their “honesty” then it’s your problem.
5. THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT
They are the walking encyclopedias. They are the masters of all knowledge. The know-it-alls of the world. And no one can tell them otherwise.
6. THE LIES JUST KEEP COMING
They tell so many lies that you can’t distinguish what’s the truth with them. Their lies can also be their truth as they can start believing their own lies and completely be out of touch with reality.
7. THEY ARE KINGS AND QUEENS OF GOSSIP
They talk about others behind their back. They live for gossip, that’s how they recharge. This toxic behavior is their hobby. That’s how they build themselves up, by tearing others down.
8. THEIR RELATIONSHIPS ARE JUST FOR SHOW
They view their relationships only as a way to show off. They never form genuine connections with anyone. These people are not able to experience deep emotions. That’s why all their relationships are shallow.
Again, the best thing to handle toxic people is to be nonchalant. Don’t get angry or passionate when they are being hostile towards you. Stay calm and collected. That’s how you will slowly extinguish their anger with understanding and calmness.
What’s your way of dealing with these people? Share your story with us in the comment section below.
