Relationships are bonds that need to be based on love and mutual understanding in order to survive and thrive. You cannot possibly sustain them otherwise.
But, while we all know this, not all of had the chance to experience the bliss one relationship holds. There are some lucky souls who crossed paths with their soulmates and found the serenity they were searching for.
Sadly, there’s also a lot of people who never got the chance to experience such wonders. People who simply weren’t that lucky as others. People who perhaps never found the right time and place to meet their destined soul. And instead settled for comfort.
But, there comes a time when no matter how much you want your relationship to work and be more than just “fine”, the signs that your partner is not the one cannot be easily ignored.
Here are 8 red flags that your relationship might be giving you a headache:
1. YOU’RE NOT BEING YOURSELF
It’s simple. If you are acting out and you’re easily losing your temper, then you need to take a step back and ask yourself if it’s really worth it. The only important thing in life staying true to yourself. You are all you have. Nurture the relationship with yourself.
2. YOU’RE APOLOGIZING FOR HIS BEHAVIOR
Family matters the most. And friends, well that’s the other family you choose for yourself. So, if you feel embarrassed or afraid to share the things you experience with your partner, that might be a potential red flag. On top of it, if you find yourself constantly apologizing for your bf’s behavior, it’s certain. These signs shouldn’t be ignored.
3. YOU’RE FEELING WORTHLESS AND UNATTRACTIVE
It’s not uncommon to have body issues and all kinds of insecurities, but, if you start to notice that it’s your partner who forces you to think poorly of yourself, that’s one sign that he might not be the person you think he was.
Your loved one should be your unconditional support, not the number one bully responsible for your issues.
4. YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY DON’T LIKE THEM
You can try to ignore this sign, but it’s one of the most important red flags that there’s something wrong with your love story. If your entire family thinks that your partner is bad for you, the chances are, he’s really bad for you. You may twitch or argue all you want, but if they are unanimous in their opinions, they’re probably true. Sorry love.
5. YOU ARE MEAN TO THEM
Have you noticed a sudden change of behavior in yourself? Like you are maybe too harsh with them? Well, news flash. You can’t be mean to someone you love. If you have the uncontrollable urge to be rude and cruel to somebody, it probably means that you don’t like this person. Let that sink in.
6. YOU FEEL PRESSURED TO DO SOMETHING YOU DON’T ENJOY
Listen, if you have a partner who pressures you into doing things you don’t like, then you have a problem. Love doesn’t pressure. It doesn’t force you to become something you’re not. If you experience this, I’m sorry to inform you, but he’s not the one for you.
7. YOU DOUBT THEIR INTENTIONS ABOUT YOU
Being in a relationship means feeling pretty confident about your partner’s feelings. You should both be free to share your emotions with each other. If you are not certain you’re on the same page, that is not a good sign. Their actions should be a constant reminder of their feelings for you. If they act like they don’t know your worth, show them the exit door.
8. YOU ARE STUCK IN AN ON-AGAIN OFF-AGAIN PATTERN
And maybe one of the most revealing signs that your relationship is heading nowhere is your on-again, off-again relationship pattern. You cannot expect to see different results if you keep running around in a circle behaving completely ignorant about issues.
Don’t be afraid to listen to what your gut is telling you.
It’s probably right.
Image: Ines Rehberger