The Law of Attraction states: You attract what you think. I couldn’t agree more. I believe that our thoughts shape our life.
If we’re all aware of this rule, then what we should do is pretty obvious: think positively and good things will happen to us. But, it’s easier said than done, right?
The problem is that many people are not even aware of the toxic, self-destructive thoughts they have. They’re so used to these thoughts that they seem normal to them. But, what they fail to realize is that such thoughts negatively affect the quality of their life and stand in the way to their happiness and success.
If you can relate to the following 8 toxic thoughts, you need to make sure you get rid of them. Since only by discarding them, you’ll be able to achieve happiness and live a better life.
Here they are:
1. Thinking that you’re always the victim.
It’s easier to blame others for your problems and play the victim role than take personal responsibility for them. Just because you’re not satisfied with your life, it doesn’t mean you can’t do anything to change and improve it. You are not a victim. You are the master of your own life and you have the power to dictate its course.
2. Thinking that you can change others.
Just because you don’t like the way someone behaves, it doesn’t mean you have the right to change them. Even if your intention is to motivate others to work on and improve themselves, the truth is that you can’t change and fix them.
Everyone is responsible for their own lives. The only person that can change other people is themselves. And the only thing you can do if you don’t like someone is to distance yourself from them.
3. Thinking that others have a better life than you.
Thinking that this other person is more beautiful and successful, and richer than you, won’t lead you anywhere. Moreover, just because you think they have a better life than you, it doesn’t mean this is true.
Instead of focusing on the life others have, focus on your own. Try working on and improve yourself in all aspects of life. It’s the only way you can achieve happiness. And once you do that, you’ll never feel the need to compare someone else’s life with yours again.
4. Thinking that a relationship can complete you.
The only person who can make you happy is yourself. You find genuine happiness within yourself, not in other people, not anywhere else. If you’re not a complete person already, having a significant other won’t make you a whole person. Moreover, it’s illogical and unfair to put the pressure on your partner to make you happy.
If you learn how to value yourself and your life and do the things you like doing, you’ll feel fulfilled even when you’re single.
5. Having high expectations of others.
No one can be the person you want and expect them to be. Even if you find your expectation pretty simple and reasonable, like expecting your spouse to do their share of the household chores, it doesn’t mean they’ll do it.
You need to understand that your expectations stem from your personal experiences and biases. If there’s something you think someone should do, it doesn’t mean this is their priority. Having this kind of thoughts can make you feel frustrated and even hurt you when someone fails to meet your expectations.
So, before you expect someone to behave in a certain manner, ask yourself first if you’d like others to have high expectations of you. I believe we both know the answer.
6. Thinking that your past determines your future.
Let bygones be bygones. Just because you made mistakes, failed to achieve your goals, experienced losses and heartbreaks, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a better future. Don’t forget that you attract what you think.
So, stop giving your past that much importance and fill your mind with positive thoughts about your future. By having a positive attitude and working on improving yourself, your life can take the course you want.
7. Worrying about what other people think and say about you.
You can’t control what others think and say about you. If someone wants to hurt you or tarnish your reputation, they’ll judge and criticize you in person or talk bad things about you behind your back.
But, if you know who you are and if you always act in accordance with your beliefs and moral principles, then you shouldn’t worry about other people’s opinions of you. If they’re judging you, it’s their problem. There’s no reason why that should be your problem too.
8. Worrying about the future.
What’s the use of worrying about something you don’t know if it’s going to happen? You’ll never be prepared for the future, that’s for sure. You’ll always have doubts and questions about what might or might not happen. So, instead of focusing on and worrying about your future, concentrate on and enjoy your present.