Being in a relationship with a narcissist, you were probably frustrated by how everything was always about them. It was exhausting and frustrating, and that’s why you decided to walk away from them and move on with your life.
And even though this is the wisest decision that you’ve ever made, there are still many painful and hard feelings that you may experience. Here are 8 of the most common ones.
1. OBSESSIVE FEELINGS
When you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you’ve probably spent a lot of time overthinking and overanalyzing their behavior to the point of getting obsessed. You were spinning your head trying to make sense of all the bullsh*t that they were throwing at you. So, that’s why after leaving them, you can still experience this toxic pattern of obsessing over them and analyzing the relationship.
2. FEELINGS OF ANXIETY
Your narcissist has made you walk on eggshells around them for months or years and that’s why you are prone to still feel anxious and uneasy without a reason. Even though you left them, the fears, the stress, and the anxieties are still lurking inside you, bursting from time to time.
This is another feeling that you probably practiced a lot during the time you were with the narcissist. You were forced to make tons of excuses to justify their wicked behavior and “make sense” of their lies. You spent all your time tiptoeing around them, trying not to see the abuse to keep the peace between you and excuse yourself for staying with them.
4. FEELINGS OF SHAME AND REGRET
When you start seeing your narcissistic ex without the blindfold on, then you may start feeling ashamed because you wasted so much time with such an individual. You are ashamed of being so naïve and gullible to let the manipulations and the abuse last for so long and not leaving sooner.
Your narcissist was constantly putting you down to bring themselves up thus gaining the ultimate power in the relationship. You hardly if ever received any compliments and support from them. They were ruining your self-esteem little by little because they wanted you to be insecure. And now when it’s all over, you still are doubting yourself and it will take some time to regain your confidence back.
6. FEELINGS OF JEALOUSY
Many narcissists when they are left hungry for attention, so they are quick to find another partner to replace the ex within weeks or even days after the breakup. That’s why you may feel extremely jealous if you find out that your narcissistic ex has already replaced you with a fresh source of a Narcissistic Supply.
7. FEELING “BLAH”
The relationship with a narcissist is always about control and power – they have it, you don’t. And now that it’s over, you feel like there is an enormous void inside you because there is no one to control you or manipulate you. And because there’s no one to bring drama in your life, you start feeling a little bit bored.
8. FEELINGS OF DEEP SADNESS AND GRIEF
There are no words that can alleviate the sadness that you feel or heal your aching heart. It is a process and you will need some time to heal, but you will.
The worst thing is over. And you made a right decision to leave the narcissist behind and save yourself.