Every person who once experienced the pain of being a victim of an abusive relationship knows how hard it is to break free from that prison.
You struggle to find your way out, but when that relationship becomes an addiction, every hallway is a dead end.
However, if you have somehow found the strength to release yourself from the wicked claws of narcissistic individuals despite the fear of leaving the relationship and the actual dangers of making the step, you are lucky.
And if you’ve finally found someone who loves and cherishes you for who you are, you’re not lucky, you’re blessed. You survived hell. But, you were reborn from the ashes. Because you were determined to take control of your life.
You dedicated your life to finding something worth living for. And eventually, you found your person. You found true love.
After all, it seems that every cloud has a silver lining, indeed. We just have to be more hopeful and determined to find it.
So, to every person who went through hell but eventually got out, here are 8 things you’ll experience once you meet a good guy after a hellish, narcissistic relationship:
1. HE’LL BELIEVE IN YOU
Unlike the narcissist who discouraged you and killed your dreams, this person will empower you to grow. He will motivate you to never stop chasing your dreams. His unconditional love will inspire you to achieve everything you put your mind to.
2. HE’LL DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE ENOUGH TO TRUST HIM
It will be difficult and painful to overcome your traumas, but this man will do anything to make you feel like yourself again. He’ll try hard to give you back your peace and will for life.
He’ll make sure to keep you safe and comfortable enough to put your trust in him. He’ll love you in ways you never knew existed. He’ll become your safe place. A secret shelter. A warm and loving nook to rest your soul.
3. HE’LL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE
You’ll be surprised how generous and unconditional, true love is. Because this person will go the extra mile just to make you happy. He’ll express his deepest emotions to you, he’ll undress his soul in front of you, he will treat you with the utmost respect.
This person will treat you the way you deserve.
4. HE’LL LISTEN TO EVERYTHING YOU HAVE TO SAY
Most importantly, this person will help you find your voice again. You were so lost and hurt, that you forgot what it feels to have your opinion appreciated. You lost your sense of self. You became a nobody.
Luckily, you’ve found someone who appreciates your being. Someone who will carefully listen to you. Someone who’ll pay a close attention to every word that comes out of your mind.
5. HE’LL APOLOGIZE WHEN HE’S WRONG
You’ll finally feel the power of equality in a relationship. Because this time, you won’t be the only person who’s apologizing when something goes to hell.
You’ll both take responsibility for your actions.
6. HE WILL GIVE YOU EVERYTHING AND MORE
Unlike the prison of a relationship you were in, this person will make sure to give you everything you need. You won’t be the only one to give your heart and get no appreciation in return.
Because this man will do anything to see your smile. He’ll make you feel things you’ve never felt before.
7. HE WILL NEVER MANIPULATE YOU
There was a time when your life was all about avoiding minefields and dodging manipulation bullets. You were so terrified and cautious that you forgot the sweet taste of freedom.
That’s why this relationship will be the best thing that ever happened to you. You’ll finally feel what true, genuine love is.
8. HE WILL SHOW YOU WHAT REAL LOVE IS
He will help you rediscover love. He’ll remind you that pure love exists, and genuine people are real, no matter how hard it might be to find one. He’ll bring back every hope you once lost.
Most importantly, he’ll help you reconnect your inner voice. He’ll be the person who will show you the path to self-love.
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