Breaking up a relationship with a narcissist is one of the most difficult things. It is extremely hard for the person involved with the narcissist to break up with them because they are used to the abuse. It’s like they get addicted to the pain and they feel they will never find someone better because the narcissist has them convinced they are unworthy of love. So, you would rather endure pain and live for the few moments of happiness they give you than be alone without them.
But when you finally break free of the abuse and meet a good person, you will have trouble opening up. But, here is what you will learn if you decide to give them a chance.
1. THEY WANT YOU TO TRUST THEM
They know how it is to be in a relationship with someone where your voice was being shut. They know you have trouble trusting them because you’ve been hurt in the past. That’s why they are patient with you. Your relationship with the narcissist was built on shaky ground and they blamed you for everything. That’s why it is not surprising that you can’t trust people now. But this person will give you time to learn how to trust yourself first and then they want you to start trusting them.
2. THEY KNOW THERE IS MORE TO YOU THAN MEETS THE EYE
They are proud of you. They believe in you. And this might be a new feeling for you because your previous relationship made you doubt yourself. However, this person will make you believe in yourself again. Because they know you are able to do anything you set your mind to. They know there is more to you than meets the eye and they are willing to get to know every single part of you.
3. THEY LISTEN TO YOU AND RESPECT WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY
Your relationship with the narcissist was all about them. They rarely even listened to what you were saying. Everything was about them. But not this time. With this person, you can speak when you want without being interrupted. They will listen to you intently and respect what you have to say. Because they want to know everything about you. They want to know the real you because they plan on building a future with you.
4. THEY TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED
They are always, always kind to you. With them, you will finally realize the importance of the smallest things. Previously, you have been imprisoned by a selfish person who only cared about themselves and their needs. Now. This person is treating you the way you deserve to be treated.
5. THEY WANT TO GIVE YOU THE WORLD
With the narcissist, you were always the one walking on eggshells and going the extra mile to do everything they wanted from you. However, now you have someone who wants to take you on dates, go on adventures together and do everything with you. They will love you and always treat you with the utmost care and respect.
6. THEY APOLOGIZE EVERY TIME THEY MAKE A MISTAKE
In your last relationship, you were always the one apologizing for pretty much anything, even for things you were not guilty of just to avoid conflicts. You got used to the drama and the emotional roller coaster and you weren’t able to get your way out. But you’ll see that everything is different with this person. They will admit when they make a mistake and they will apologize instead of putting the blame on you.
7. HE IS NOT PLAYING GAMES
Your last relationship with the narcissist showed you how manipulative can people be. Narcissists are people who crave control. They play games in order to get you to do anything they want you to do. That’s why when you are finally in a loving and healthy relationship that is based on honesty, respect, and compromise you’ll see that not all people are evil and manipulative. You will see that there are good people out there.
8. THEY SHOW YOU WHAT TRUE LOVE REALLY IS
When you are in a relationship with a good person, you will finally understand the meaning of true love. They will make you feel loved like no one before.