Toxic people are individuals who will drain you energetically and emotionally. They want you to feel sorry for them and fix their problems. But their problems never get solved because once you offer them help, they come up with a new issue at hand. They will create drama after drama until you finally decide to remove them from your life.
Do you know someone like this? Here are 8 things how you can recognize such an individual and protect yourself from their poison.
1. THEY ARE JUDGMENTAL
They will openly criticize you, your friends, your family. They will even talk sh*t about their friends and family in front of you. They always have something to reproach you about what you didn’t do or what you have done wrong.
2. THEY NEVER APOLOGIZE
They never feel a need to apologize because in their opinion everything is someone else’s fault. Plus, they enjoy the victim status and the extra attention and sympathy they get from others.
3. THEY MAKE YOU CONSTANTLY PROVE YOURSELF TO THEM
Nothing is ever good for them. You feel an urge to constantly prove yourself to them and choose them over anything or anyone. Your only choice should always be them and satisfying their needs.
4. THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED IN THE THINGS THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO YOU
They lack compassion and empathy, and they are not interested in anything that is not connected to them. They will never be there for you, but they will expect you to be always there for them.
5. THEY ARE MANIPULATORS
Their main purpose is to manipulate others into getting what they want. They use other people as puppets to help them achieve their goals. Again, other people’s needs are not important to them. They care only about theirs.
6. THEY DON’T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN FEELINGS
They project their feelings onto their victim. And if someone tries to point that to them, they become aggressive in defending their perspectives.
7. THEY ARE INCONSISTENT
It is hard to get to know someone when they are constantly changing their behavior. They change their perspectives, beliefs, opinions, and even their feelings depending on what they want to achieve at the moment.
8. THEY MAKE YOU DEFEND YOURSELF
Their manipulative nature always puts you on the edge. They are neither interested in your opinions nor are they willing to make a compromise. This puts you in a place where you constantly need to defend yourself and your values.
If you have a person like this in your life, for your own good – cut them off! End the relationship you have with them, move on, and don’t look back.
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