How do you know if you’re in the right relationship?
Most importantly, what do you think a healthy and loving relationship should provide for the people in it?
We all have our own expectations about how the right relationship should make us feel. We all have our own preferences, desires and believes about how should a partner behave with us, and that’s why the answer to this question is often very subjective.
Some of us need security, others search for freedom, and then others just need to be heard and understood by someone.
But, regardless of our differences, there are some things that every relationship must nurture in order to thrive. The real mark of a healthy, harmonious and loving relationship are these 8 signs:
1. THERE ARE NO GAMES
When you find the person, who makes you feel free to express yourself, a person who is 100% honest and open about his intentions, someone who doesn’t dare to play with your insecurities and most important a person who doesn’t take the relationship for granted, you can be sure you are finally in the right relationship.
When you have mutual understanding and mutual respect, anything else is irrelevant.
2. YOU’RE ON THE SAME PAGE
If you give someone the impression that you’re fine with something you clearly cannot process and live with, a person will assume that you’re genuinely okay about it.
If a woman/man start out casual and don’t share the fact that they’re ready for a serious and committed relationship, it is likely that it will never become a committed relationship.
The only way to maintain a healthy bond and a prosperous relationship is to always tell the truth. Be honest about your intentions. Be straightforward about your expectations. Be open about your needs. If the other person doesn’t like it, they weren’t right for you all along.
3. YOU HAVE AN HONESTY, HEARTFELT AND GENUINE LINE OF COMMUNICATION
The right relationship will be with the person who will open up in front of you and the one who will help you undress your soul in front of them. You shouldn’t be afraid to have deep, meaningful conversations with the one you’re with. It takes two to tango, and it takes two to make a relationship work.
4. YOUR LOVING DEEDS PROVE THE MEANING OF YOUR TENDER WORDS
I guess actions really speak louder than words? You can say “I love you” a thousand times, but if you don’t bother to prove your statements, it’s all shallow talk. If your actions cannot express your inner sensations and deepest feelings about someone or something, then it’s safe to say that your words aren’t as genuine as you claim them to be.
But, if you’ve already found your person who never fails to let you know how deep is their love, you hold that person tight and never let them go.
5. YOU DON’T SEEK PERFECTION
A real, genuine relationship will never be perfect. And you must know this. If you’re willing to be together on those bright, shiny days, then you should be ready to stand next to each other in those bad moments. Because a real relationship is not always pink skies and unicorns. Whether you like it or not, the reality is flawed. It is uncensored and it reeks of impressionism. It’s up to you how you deal with it.
6. YOU ARE VULNERABLE IN FRONT OF EACH OTHER
It is scary, but the strongest and most resilient love is the love that makes you vulnerable. Free of every inhibition and every chain that binds your restless heart. Real love is about daring to undress your soul naked without being afraid of getting hurt. It’s about standing next to each other through thick and thin and overcoming everything. If you have this, you are truly blessed.
7. YOU CELEBRATE EACH OTHER’S GROWTH AND SUCCESS
More than anything, true love is not about finding a person and losing your identity. But, it is about meeting a person who will help you find yourself. When you find someone, who connects with you on a different level, helps you discover the deepest depths of your heart and grow stronger, you know you’ve met someone truly worthy.
8. YOUR BOND IS BASED ON TEAMWORK AND SENSE OF FREEDOM
Relationships are the most intense, exhilarating and personal workshops you’ll ever be a part of.
A loving relationship is based on a healthy blend of unconditional togetherness and freedom. You can’t put the blame on your partner for something you experience in your relationship and call it a day. If something’s not right, it is likely that the both of you contributed equally. That is why relationships all about teamwork and balance.
Oh, and keep in mind that if you feel trapped with your partner, you’re not in the right relationship. True love radiates freedom. It manifests genuine emotions, not a need for possession. Remember that.
So, have you found your person yet?