When it comes to relationships, the mark of a healthy, loving and thriving relationship between two people can be seen in the time and energy the partners spend on each other.
The only way to connect with the person you’re with is to experience the undeniable sensation of freedom with them. This state, on the other hand, can only be reached when both partners feel certain about their feelings for each other.
Love is a two-way street. It cannot survive otherwise.
That being said, if you feel that you’re no longer where you once were and your feelings about them have changed, you have to explore all the possible reasons why you’re feeling that way. You owe it to the relationship, you owe it to them, but most importantly you owe it to yourself.
Here are 8 signs you’re not happy in your relationship:
1. YOU ARE ANNOYED BY THEIR BEHAVIOR
It’s perfectly normal to be annoyed by the people you spend most of the time with. No matter how much you love someone’s flaws, after a while they become insufferable.
But, if you feel that you can’t seem to spend more than 20 minutes without going crazy and frustrated with their behavior, that’s a red flag right there.
2. YOU AVOID SPENDING TIME WITH THEM
There’s nothing wrong with spending your time with your friends over your boyfriend. Sometimes, you need someone with whom you can talk about things you cannot possibly talk to your lover. You must make space for yourself.
But, if you start finding ways to avoid them, you might be experiencing serious troubles in paradise. It’s time to reevaluate your priorities and make some changes.
3. YOU ARE NO LONGER TRYING TO IMPRESS THEM
The days of making efforts are gone. You’ve stopped trying to impress them because you no longer see a challenge in your relationship. You are no longer interested in their approval or opinion.
4. YOU START TO FEEL INSECURE
Have you ever felt insecure about your feelings for your partner?
If the answer is yes, you have to do your best to find the root of your issue. It is hard, but one thing you need to remember is the fact that you should always be honest with yourself.
Before you put the blame on your partner, you need to do some serious soul-searching and make sure that your feeling isn’t something you’re carrying with you from your past relationships.
5. YOU CAN’T COMMUNICATE WITHOUT FIGHTING
Communication is the foundation of a happy relationship. Compromises are what help the relationship survive and overcome the obstacles. So, if you feel that lately, you can’t seem to meet halfway and agree on important subjects, you need to ask yourself why this is happening.
Did something change? Do you feel the same about them? Is there anything you can do to fix it?
6. YOU CAN’T VISUALIZE A FUTURE TOGETHER
This is probably the most accurate sign that you have no intention of staying in the relationship. If you can’t imagine a future with your current partner, then perhaps, it is better to end it on good terms now than break their heart later.
7. YOU ARE STILL THINKING ABOUT YOUR EX
When we break up with someone, it’s natural to be curious about their lives. You were once close to each other and even though you’re not together and the feelings are fading away, there’s still some strange interest about what they’re doing.
But, if you catch yourself reminiscing about the good, old days with your ex instead of focusing on your current relationship, I have bad news for you. Your relationship won’t last if you don’t contribute to it. Rethink your choices.
8. YOU’VE STARTED EXPLORING YOUR OPTIONS
Let me tell you something. Cheating doesn’t necessarily involve being physical with someone else besides your partner. Your strange thoughts and wild fantasies about a completely different and separated life can be considered as cheating.
Your slightly innocent acts of texting and hanging out with another person can be considered as cheating.
If you are feeling guilty for behaving a certain way and you are afraid that your partner might find out about it, you’re cheating. So, be honest with yourself.
How are you feeling?
What’s going on inside your head?
Most importantly, what’s going on inside that heart of yours?
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