No matter how much we like or not, or how much we wish to deny the truth, the people who are surrounding us have the biggest influence on our overall persona.
Luck may sometimes help us meet the right people for us, but eventually, we are the ones who make the choice whether they get to stay in our life or leave for good.
Because ultimately, we all want genuine and decent people around us. We all need someone we can rely on without feeling judged. We all need someone to look up to. People who will motivate us to grow, not discourage us from flying.
However, with life being this unpredictable event and society this manipulative crowd, we all eventually experience the mistake of hanging out with the wrong crowd.
So, here some important pointers that you are in the presence of a bad company:
1. THEY BARELY MAKE TIME FOR YOU
When a person doesn’t have the time to even write to you and ask you a simple “How are you doing”, it’s obvious that they have no interest in you.
But, when a certain person is never around when you need them, but calls you only when it’s convenient for them, you better watch out. Because they won’t stop using you until you cut them off for good.
2. THEY REFUSE TO ACCEPT YOUR PAST
Some people you’ll eventually meet will have a problem accepting your past and embracing your flaws. They will be so self-centered that they’ll have zero tolerance when it comes to you.
Their inflated sense of self won’t allow them to see past your mistakes, but instead, it will force them to judge you for your wrongdoings.
If you ever sense this in a person, leave. A person who doesn’t accept you now will never accept you later.
3. THEY ENJOY DESTROYING YOUR DREAMS AND DISCOURAGING YOU FROM TRYING
I actually had a friend like this. She was never there to really help me when I needed her, celebrate my success with me or simply congratulate me for the things I’ve achieved.
The only thing she knew best was putting me down. It wouldn’t matter if I landed on the moon, she would still find a way to discredit my ability and destroy my dream by making it sound just plain ordinary and meaningless.
4. YOU FEEL PRESSURED
Healthy and loving relationships radiate freedom. They inspire you to reconnect with yourself, motivate you to grow and reach more. There are no conditions, no fears, no nothing. You can come and go, but you choose to stay because that’s the only place you really want to be.
Now, if you fail to feel this vibe in a person and you feel like you’ve suddenly been trapped, it’s time to be brave and save yourself from that nightmare.
5. THEY AVOID TELLING YOU THE TRUTH
When a person has the courtesy to look you in the eye and lie to you, you can tell right away that he’s toxic and a manipulative coward.
These people are not the ones you need in your life. Because if someone dared to lie to you once, you can be sure that they’ll continue doing it.
Don’t allow to be a part of their dirty games.
6. THEIR NEGATIVITY INFLUENCES YOU
There will always be negative, moody and pessimistic creatures who can’t really bother to perceive the brighter side of life.
However, it is important to understand that even though negativity is everywhere around us, it is up to you whether you’ll allow their poisonous words to affect you or just let them pass you by.
7. THEY ARE EXTREMELY JEALOUS OF YOU
And this ladies and gents is usually the reason for their merciless put-downs, brutal criticism and continuous humiliation.
They are jealous of you. Better yet, they are green with envy, and they don’t what to do with themselves, so the only way to ever feel happy is to make you feel miserable.
If you somehow find yourself in this kind of a bad company, don’t hesitate to leave and never come back.
8. THEY DESPERATELY TRY TO CHANGE YOU
Love is about accepting another human being with all of their flaws, weaknesses, strengths, fears, dreams, mistakes and hopes.
If a person desperately tries to change you and mold you into something they like, they don’t love you. More importantly, they don’t respect you.
When someone forces you to become something you are not only to be with them, it’s best to take a step back. It’s much more important to protect your own integrity and guard your personal values than engage in a relationship with a person who doesn’t see the beauty within you.
It’s easier to mend your broken heart than to fill the emptiness within your soul.