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8 Reasons Why You Should Stop Pleasing Everyone & Be Selfish When It Comes To Your Needs


You are good enough. You are strong enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, worthy enough. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Yes, we all strive to present ourselves in the best light possible and we want other people to like us, but that’s impossible. There will always be someone who doesn’t. The truth is, we couldn’t please everyone even if we tried. And the beautiful thing is that we are perfect just the way we are, with our flaws and vulnerabilities. Those things make us human. Make us real.

When we embrace who we really are instead of who we want other people to think we are, then we will experience a sense of freedom and happiness as we’ve never felt before.

Here’s why you should stop pretending to be someone you are not and be your amazing self instead.

1. Those Worth Impressing Want You To Be Yourself

The only relationships worth having are those that make you feel good about yourself and make you a better person. Those who don’t try to change you, but accept you as the wonderful person that you are. Ignore those who expect you to change. Ignore those who compare you to others. Ignore the judges, the haters. Those are not your people. The right people will love you, respect you, and cherish you from the bottom of their hearts instead of criticizing you or trying to shape you in someone else.

2. Only You Know What’s Best For You

Don’t lose yourself trying to be accepted by others. Be confident, live your life passionately, do the things you love with the people you love and don’t care about the haters. Be true to yourself and to your dreams and goals. Don’t get distracted by others who may not be having your best intentions at heart. Don’t let anything or anyone put you down. Know your strength and your ability to pick yourself up and continue your journey no matter how much time life knocks you down.

3. You And Only YOU Can Change Your Life

Every situation you’ve been in – good or bad – the only constant is you. Therefore, it is your responsibility to take the lead in your life and move on from anything or anyone that no longer serves you. It takes a lot of courage and strength to make a decision and start changing your destiny. Please, don’t allow the opinions and expectations of others interfere in your way.

4. Don’t Fall For Society’s Materialistic Measurement Of Worth

Don’t fall for society’s definitions and expectations of what’s good, beautiful, and acceptable because you will lose yourself. Don’t allow other people to tell you what’s best for you. Everyone has their own life path and purpose. Stay away from those that think they are better than you, those with egos bigger than their brains, or those who think that appearances and materialistic possessions are all that matters in this world. Because I know, and you know that what matters the most is having strong character and a loving and honest heart. Something that money can’t buy.

5. You Don’t Have Anything To Prove

Everyone wants to climb on the top and enjoy the view from there, but don’t forget that the true growth happens while you are struggling to climb it, not when you are on the top. Focus on the destination but enjoy your journey as well. It’s the most exciting part. Don’t rush through life and miss important things. Appreciate your surroundings. There’s beauty everywhere.  

6. Failure Leads To Good Things

Making mistakes, screwing things up, and failing are not things that you should worry and obsess about. They are signs that you’ve stood up for something and you tried. Everyone makes mistakes because no one is perfect. The only thing that you should care about is the lesson behind each mistake and failure. After all, it’s not about how many times you have failed, but how many times you have picked yourself up from the ground and you started fresh.

7. You Can’t Please Everyone, It’s Impossible

When someone disrespects you, devalues you, or treats you poorly, don’t try to explain yourself to them or try to please them to win their affection. Stop looking for their approval. They are low value, but that doesn’t mean that you should be too. Learn the art of walking away from those who are too small for you.

8. You Should Save Your Energy For Special People

Some people are just like that. They are born to criticize, judge, and speak ill of others and you can’t do anything about it. The only thing you can do is distance yourself from their energy and don’t allow them to drag you into their pool of negativity and self-doubt. Love yourself enough to save your charm and positivity for those who deserve your love and attention.  

Mary Wright