We all have experienced the uncertainty and the anxiety that comes from the first date. Even more so, if you have been long single and meeting someone new for the first time sounds scary and gives you the chills.
What do you say? What should you reveal about yourself? How can you know that they want a relationship? Are they worthy of your further investment and time?
Yes, the dating world can really suck. But, if you know the right question to ask your partner it would be a piece of cake for you. So, below are 8 questions that you should ask your partner on your first date.
1. WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO IN YOUR FREE TIME?
This question is important in order to find what their passions and values in life are. It gives you a perspective of what they are like because their interests reveal more about their personality than their words ever could.
2. WHAT DO YOU LOOK FOR IN A RELATIONSHIP?
Do they want something casual or a long term? It is very important to know this thing from the beginning. Of course, not everyone knows what they want in the beginning but what do they think about relationships, in general, can give you some clues.
3. HOW LONG AGO WAS YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP?
A few weeks ago? A few months ago? A few years ago? This question will give you an answer whether they are emotionally open to begin something new or are still looking for a rebound.
4. WHY DID YOU BREAK UP?
This may sound like an inappropriate thing to ask someone, but it is important because it reveals many things about the person – what is their deal breaker and what they have been through. You can also learn their insecurities and fears.
5. WHAT IS THE ONE THING THAT I SHOULD KNOW ABOUT YOU?
During the first dates, people are generally more open to revealing personal things about themselves. Use this information to your advantage and be curious about them. Get to know them before you decide to invest in the relationship.
6. WHAT QUALITIES DO YOU VALUE MOST IN A PARTNER?
Are they searching for empathy, kindness, importance, success, integrity, honesty, or maturity? What they find attractive in a partner can be of utter importance for the future of your relationship.
7. WHAT 3 THINGS ARE MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU IN YOUR LIFE?
Is it their career? Their family? Friends? You can discover what is the most important to them with this question.
8. WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN 5 YEARS?
In my belief, this is the most vital question that will determine the future of your relationship. If your visions don’t match you will have problems later on.
Finally, pay close attention in these beginning stages of getting to know someone. If you realize that you don’t have things in common it is better to leave than waste your time on something that is destined for disaster.