We’ve all experienced harmful and toxic relationships at some point in our lives. Some of us survived them, others are still struggling to get out and then there are others who have successfully managed to overcome them and move on.
But, tell me. Have you ever wondered how have you trapped yourself in this relationship pattern in the first place?
While the reasons may vary, the most important truth we all need to acknowledge is the fact that we attract who we are. Once we understand the real meaning behind this statement, every relationship we’ve struggled to understand will make sense again:
Here are 10 powerful methods you need to adopt if you want to attract more positive relationships into your life:
1. MOVE OUT OF PLACES THAT MAKE YOU FEEL MISERABLE
It doesn’t matter if it is your own home. If the place you’re living in fills you with negativity, drains your power and makes you feel miserable, then you should definitely consider moving out.
But, remember, space can also refer to a negative space inside our minds. If this negative space that is causing your stress is somewhere in your head, it is up to you to find a way to move out of it.
2. STOP COMPLAINING – DO SOMETHING
If you want to make some serious positive changes in your life, the first step is to stop complaining and start doing something about it. Pitying yourself is only draining your energy and makes you а victim.
However, if you want to put an end to those toxic relationships that are only suffocating your mind and your soul, you should stop allowing others to complain to you. This vicious cycle of negativity can only be stopped if you decide to set your own boundaries.
3. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF
You will never attract positive and real relationships if you do not learn to love and appreciate yourself. If you are confident about yourself, the same type of people will sense that and approach you. On the contrary, if you hate yourself and think that you deserve the worst, people who have the power to sense that kind of insecurity will take advantage of it.
You attract who you are. Don’t ever forget that!
4. ACCEPT YOUR PAST BUT DO NOT LIVE IN IT
The past, no matter how hard and painful it is, it’s still a part of us. It has shaped us and transformed us in many ways and ultimately it has made us the people we are today. That is why you should never regret your actions.
I say, honor the past but do not live in it. Appreciate it for all the lessons it has given you, but feel free to let go of it in order to focus on the present moment.
5. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
There’s great power in believing in yourself and standing up for the things you know are true. But it is exactly when we allow others to convince us of the opposite that we relinquish that power.
The truth is, no one can take that away from us, we are the ones who are giving it away.
That is why you should never listen to what others have to say. If you believe in something, hold on to it. Speak up about it. Stand up for your truth, no matter how unacceptable it may sound. Only then you’ll attract the right kind of people.
6. FIND THE BEAUTY IN EVERYTHING YOU EXPERIENCE
Everything that happens to you is for a certain reason. Even those darkest experiences that have broken your heart into pieces are there to teach you something. That is why you should always search for the beauty in every experience. Look for the silver lining in every ominous, thunderous cloud.
In the end, positivity always attracts positivity.
7. BE MINDFUL OF EACH AND EVERY SINGLE MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE
Live each day as if it was your last. Be present in every passing moment. Focus on the people that are constantly surrounding you. Pay attention to what they’re saying to you and what their actions are. Be mindful of each moment and you’ll recognize the right ones.
8. BE GRATEFUL FOR THE THINGS YOU HAVE
Most importantly, wherever you’re in life, be grateful for the things you have. Show appreciation for the opportunities you’ve been given. Be grateful for all the good, and not so good people that came into your life. Each and every one of them taught you a lesson.
Bottom line, once you start appreciating the relationships in your life, you will attract more positive and like-minded people.