We’ve all heard of the terms extrovert and introvert. Both of them are at the ends of the personality spectrum. And according to that theory, human beings can be classified either as shy, withdrawn and reticent or outgoing, socially confident people who are basically considered the life and soul of the party.
But, is this really it?
What about the people who have never identified themselves as either extrovert or introvert?
The truth is, not everything is black and white. I am a perfect example of that. I am not an introvert, nor an extrovert. And if you ask me, I need both sides in order to function properly.
There are times when I want to be surrounded by people, socialize and just party. But, then there are also times when the only thing I need to make it through the day is to have some time alone.
So, for those of you who have no idea what am I talking about, news flash – extroverted introverts exist.
Here are 8 things only these people will relate to:
1. YOU WANT TO SOCIALIZE, BUT WHEN THE CONVERSATION TURNS INTO SMALL TALK YOU’D RATHER LEAVE
Everything is fine until you’re suddenly engaged in a small talk. Some people consider it an activity to make the time go faster, but to you is just a meaningless chit chat that destroys your last functional brain cells. You have no problem talking to strangers if the conversation is stimulating and thought-provoking.
2. YOU WANT TO BE SURROUNDED BY PEOPLE, BUT ONLY BY THOSE YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH
Overwhelming and loud crowds don’t make you panic and run for the hills. But, if you need to choose, you would rather spend your time with people you’re comfortable with than waste your energy on people who make you feel awkward.
3. THERE ARE DAYS WHEN YOU WANT TO TALK, AND THERE ARE DAYS WHEN YOU WANT TO BE LEFT IN PEACE
Some days you want to text and call every single one of your friends, you want to chat, you want to talk, you want to party and have the time of your life. But, then again there are also days when you just want to be left alone. No messages, no calls, no unnecessary dialogues. Only yourself and your own thoughts.
4. SOMETIMES IT IS REALLY HARD FOR PEOPLE TO GET YOU OUT OF THE HOUSE
It is true. Extroverted introverts are a bit of both worlds. Me and you should know that. That is why sometimes it’s really hard for our friends to persuade us into going out. It is not that we don’t want to have fun with them. The thing is, we appreciate our alone time more than anything in the world. And if we feel that we need to be alone, you cannot do anything to change our mind.
5. YOU NEED TO FEEL A CERTAIN CONNECTION WITH PEOPLE
Without a meaningful connection, there’s no point in hanging out with someone. To you, at least. Small talk is just a waste of time. The only way you can be close to someone is by making deep, meaningful connection.
6. BEING ALONE DOESN’T MEAN THAT YOU WANT TO BE LONELY
But, don’t get us wrong. Just because we need to make some time for ourselves, doesn’t mean that we want to be lonely. It doesn’t mean that we hate people and we want to spend the rest of our lives in solitude. Our close friends are very important to us. It’s just… Self-care is at the top of our priority list.
7. YOU ENJOY LISTENING TO OTHERS
You want to be there for other people, even when you don’t have anything to say. Because you are aware that sometimes the only thing you can do to help someone is to just listen.
8. YOU MAKE NEW FRIENDSHIPS EASILY, BUT SOMETIMES IT FEELS HARD TO MAINTAIN THEM
You’re not a shy, reserved person. You want to socialize, have fun and make new friends. But, the thing about you is… You cannot easily bond with someone and consider them your real friend. It takes a lot of time and energy between you and that other person to develop that kind of a relationship.