Surviving a narcissistic, abusive relationship is a truly difficult thing to do. A toxic partner has the power to turn your world upside down, make you blind to the truth, manipulate you without you even knowing, force you to become a victim of your own mind.
A toxic partner can destroy your world and then leave you begging for help.
So, if you’ve been a part of such abusive and detrimental relationship, but somehow found a way to escape the wicked claws of the narcissist, congratulations. It was a painful, difficult and a blood-curdling experience, but you still made it…
Here are 8 clear signs that you’re finally out of the destructive relationship and you’re finally getting over your narcissistic asshole of an ex:
1. YOU CAN EASILY SPOT FAKE KINDNESS AND FLATTERY
Flattery doesn’t attract you anymore. Fake, kind words don’t fool you anymore. A wicked smile won’t manipulate you to believe their lies. No more.
Because you are now a person reborn from the ashes. A brand-new, improved, injured, but experienced and a wiser person that you were before.
2. YOU IGNORE THEIR DESPERATE ATTEMPTS AT CONTACT
You are no longer that weak and desperate addict that you were before. Whenever your phone lights up with a notification and you see their name on the screen, you have no reason to answer them, because you’ve moved on and they became just a part of your past.
You are finally out of that vicious, toxic cycle and you’re happy. That’s all that matters.
3. YOU REFUSE TO CALL THEM
It takes a lot of time, and effort to be able to forget about everything they’ve done, to get over your need to take them back, but you are getting there. Slowly, but you are doing great.
One of the first signs that you are finally out on your own and you’re healing is the fact that you don’t need to call them.
4. YOU FINALLY FOUND YOUR PLACE IN LIFE
For so long they fed you lies, they forced you to play their toxic, brutal games and they made you feel worthless. They manipulated your brain.
Well, luckily that’s over now. You’ve finally gained the strength to cut them off and leave. And now that you’re out of that abusive pattern you’re making giant steps on your journey to self-growth.
Keep going, and don’t be afraid to stay true to yourself. I promise you, great things will always follow you!
5. YOU EVEN STARTED HELPING PEOPLE WITH SAME EXPERIENCES
This is probably the surest sign that you’ve not only saved your soul from their vile, narcissistic claws but you’ve also started healing and helping other people with similar issues.
It shows a clear determination to protect the people who fight the same battle and eventually help them make the essential step to move on.
6. YOUR EMOTIONAL AND MENTAL STATE HAS IMPROVED
Surviving a narcissistic relationship leaves you bruised and heavy injured. It has the power to shatter your heart, destroy your willpower, and kill every hope and dream you ever had.
But, you managed to get out and heal on your own. And one of the biggest signs that you’re finally getting over your narcissistic asshole of an ex it’s the fact that your emotional state is improved.
7. YOU ARE LIVING YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST
Your life is about you. You wake up and you know that what you decide is up to you and no one else. You are no longer scared to express your emotions or share your opinion because you are free.
It was one hell of a painful experience, but you made it. Freedom is your middle name.
8. YOU NO LONGER CARE ABOUT THEIR LIFE AND WHAT THEY DO WITH IT
Most importantly, you’re no longer interested in their love life, or their existence altogether. You’ve matured and realized that your life is only yours to live. You are past the point of playing stupid games and submitting yourself to childish tricks.
You will never be their victim again. Because now you know what they’re capable of. You are stronger than before. And you will never again settle for anything else than true love.
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