A healthy and prosperous relationship needs to be based on a solid foundation. Otherwise, it might not endure the pressure and easily crash.
Think of it, like building a house. You start at the bottom, you make sure the base of the whole structure is safe and secure, and then you move on to the walls, the colour of the facade, the interior design, the style, the furniture, the decorations, and finally the spirit that makes the house complete.
Now, when it comes to relationships, it is basically the same. A happy, fulfilling and a long-lasting relationship requires the same amount of effort and unreserved devotion from both partners.
If you want to be in that kind of relationship, you need to work hard and earn it. Who you are is what you invest in your relationship. So naturally, if you want a better relationship, the change always starts with yourself.
You need to be willing to make some changes and become a better partner in order to improve the quality of your life and your relationships.
So, here are 7 simple secrets how to become the person you’ve always aspired to be and change your relationship for the better:
1. LEAVE YOUR EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE OUT OF IT
We’ve all have a painful past. We’ve all experienced a childhood trauma. We’ve all had a rough patch in life. One way or another, we’ve all suffered. And we all carry a unique emotional baggage.
However, that baggage from the past might sometimes stand in the way of our life. The burden we carry might prevent us from improving and maintaining our current and future relationships.
Try to leave your emotional baggage out of it and start with a clean slate.
2. UNDERSTAND THE OTHER SIDE OF THE STORY
When we get into a disagreement it is natural to stick to our opinion because that’s what got us there in the first place. We search for ways to prove the other person wrong and find enough evidence to support our point of view, no matter how foolish it might sound.
But, just imagine what would happen if you tried to put yourself in your partner’s shoes. Imagine the things you’ll experience once you try to understand the other side of the story for a change.
The more you focus on their argument, the more validity you’ll find in their opinion. In fact, you’ll be amazed at how inconsiderate and selfish we can sometimes be.
3. SPEND MORE QUALITY TIME
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. A healthy and loving relationship is based on a solid foundation. A couple cannot possibly make it if they don’t find the time for each other.
It’s more important to improve the quality instead of the quantity of your time spent together.
The world is fast-paced and busy. Time is flying ridiculously fast. But it’s up to us to set our priorities straight.
4. BE WILLING TO COMPROMISE
A relationship simply cannot survive without compromises. We all have our flaws, our imperfections, our beliefs, our radical opinions about everything.
Can you imagine what would happen if we decided to behave selfishly without considering other people’s feelings? A freaking chaos.
Want to improve your relationship? Stop behaving difficult and start making compromises.
5. BE KIND AND GENEROUS TO EACH OTHER
Yes, life is difficult and challenging. But, that doesn’t mean that it should affect your love. There will be stormy days. But it is important to not let anger mess with your mind.
Always be kind and generous to each other. Show your partner how grateful and happy you are to have them. Let them know how much you love them.
6. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
You have the right to be angry, mad, miserable, sad, or frustrated. You have the right to express your feelings. You are a human being who has emotions.
But, please however you feel, try not to take your frustration out on your partner. No matter how angry or sad you are, no one, I repeat no one should put up with your insufferable behaviour.
7. OPEN YOUR HEART AND UNDRESS YOUR SOUL
Most importantly, don’t be afraid to undress both your heart and soul. Because only then you’ll genuinely connect with the one you love. Only then you’ll get to experience what real intimacy truly means. Only then, you’ll become one.
One of the core pillars of a relationship is your sex life. The better you connect in bed, the stronger is your foundation. So, quit being shy and steam things up in the bedroom. There are several ways that can help you turn on the heat. Read erotic novels, watch sensual films or maximize pleasure with Sex toys. These can enhance your connection with your partner and increase pleasure.