As emotional human beings who crave connections, our relationships that we build with other people are truly important for our overall happiness and wellbeing in life. The truth is, we can survive alone. We can live on our own, but that is a life of misery and pain. That is a life that we avoid.
However, as emotional, and selfish human beings, we also tend to put the blame on the other person whenever our relationships hit a rough patch. We avoid looking ourselves in the mirror because it is easier to avoid taking responsibility. And that is how the relationship drama usually begins.
If you’ve already been through this, here are 7 things that you should immediately start doing if you want to strengthen your love and become a better partner:
1. LEAVE YOUR EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE ASIDE
We’ve all been through pain. We’ve all suffered, and we’ve all had our hearts torn. And as a result, we all have our emotional load with us. But that is something that we deal with on our own.
One of our biggest mistakes in love is carrying our emotional baggage everywhere with us and letting it weigh us down.
2. PUT YOURSELF IN YOUR PARTNER’S SHOES FOR A CHANGE
Most of the time we get into a disagreement thinking that we are right. We look for evidence and arguments to support our side and we stick to what we deeply believe in because we are convinced that we must win.
All the while we forget that this is not a competition, but a relationship between two human beings that need to be based on understanding to thrive. We forget that our partner has feelings as well.
Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes for once.
3. STOP COMPLAINING AND START DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
Every relationship has its downsides. We laugh together, but we also fight together. We love each other, but there are also times when we cannot stand one another. However, this is all normal as long as you are actually doing something to sort things out after your arguments.
Stop complaining about things that bother you and take matters into your own hands.
4. SPEND MORE QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
In a world where everyone is always running to get somewhere and people are becoming more and more heartless by the day, be brave to love.
Open up your soul and let your partner reveal the darkest parts of your heart. Be with them. Be there for them. No matter how busy you are, always find time to be with each other.
5. BE KIND TO EACH OTHER
Life is difficult. Sometimes, it is too damn hard. But that doesn’t mean that your love should be too. There will always be thunderstorms. It’s up to you to decide whether you’ll let them destroy you or make you even stronger.
Don’t forget to be kind and generous to your partner.
6. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS
We all fight our demons in our own way. We all feel things inside of us that we cannot always explain to other people. But regardless of how frustrated, exhausted and miserable we sometimes are, that should never be an excuse for us to take everything out on our loved ones.
No one deserves to go through such hell. And no one, I repeat no one needs to put up with your horrible behavior.
7. BE READY TO COMPROMISE
A healthy and thriving relationship is based on compromises and mutual understanding. That is the basis of a happy life. We all have our differences, but if we want our relationship to grow, we must find a way to overcome them.
This article is written by Stephanie Reeds. If you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected] and I will be happy to give you my opinion.