I’m sure you already know how difficult and unbearable narcissists are with their self-inflated image of themselves. But, do you know what kind of person a narcissist who hunts their victims with their charm is? Well, I assure you that being in a relationship with such a person is definitely not a pleasant experience.
This kind of narcissist does not only have a grandiose sense of their importance, but of their abilities in bed as well. They expect their partner to satisfy their needs and they use all kinds of tactics to emotionally and physically manipulate them. They don’t bother to think that their selfish behavior will hurt their partner’s feelings, let alone take into consideration their needs and desires.
So, how do you know that you’re in a relationship with a narcissist? Following are 7 typical behaviors of these people, and if your partner displays the majority of them, chances are he/she is one of them.
Here they are:
1. They’re charming and lovely.
To win your love at the beginning of your relationship, a narcissist will be charming and romantic. To get your attention, they’ll use their irresistible charisma and shower you with compliments and praise. They’ll do everything they can to seduce you.
The truth is, they’re not loving or kind at all and they’re not really into you. The reason why they’re doing all this is to get you to give them what they want.
2. They focus on physical more rather than on emotional.
When it comes to making love, a narcissist focuses more on appearance than on emotions. They don’t tolerate flaws, either theirs or yours.
If you’re dating a narcissist, you should know that you’ll never be able to experience true intimacy. He/she sees you more like an object than a person, so never expect tenderness or caring passion from them.
3. They neglect you after you’re intimate.
Once you satisfy their needs and expectations in bed, they can emotionally distance themselves from you. Instead of feeling loved and satisfied, you’ll feel lonely and empty.
You’ll make love to them but you won’t feel love at all. Genuine emotions are always missing.
4. They constantly undermine you.
To make themselves appear more beautiful and desirable than you, they’ll put you down and make you feel unworthy. They can mock, ridicule, and shame you – they’ll do anything they can to make you look and feel incompetent and inferior to them.
Or, if you threaten to leave them, they won’t hesitate to blame and make you feel irresponsible and ungrateful. In this way, they expect they’ll hook you back in.
5. They focus on performance and approval.
To impress you, they’ll try hard to show how good in bed they are, especially during the beginning phases of the relationship. But, there’s no passion in this – it’s all just a mere acting.
Typically of them, he/she will also expect you to tell them how amazing they were and boost their ego.
6. You exist to serve their needs.
After the initial courtship is over, they will no longer try to impress you. Instead, they demand you fulfill all their desires in bed or even engage in acts that only they enjoy. Don’t be surprised if they demand you give up your own needs and desires or limit your activities to be more available.
7. They react negatively when they don’t get what they want.
Narcissists can’t stand being rejected or disappointed. They expect you to give them whatever they ask from you. And if you refuse to do that, they can start ignoring and avoiding you. They can refuse to show you love and affection, and they can also mock and even threaten to leave you.