Liberating yourself from an emotionally abusive relationship can be extremely hard. Even after the relationship has ended you still might be accustomed to being someone’s second choice. You might still be afraid to ask for the things you deserve and that are pure love and happiness.
Sadly, when someone has been in a long-term relationship with a narcissist or an abusive person – they can get used to that kind of toxic behavior and may not be able to see when they have a good person by their side because their vision is blurred with all the lies and manipulation from the previous relationship.
So, how do you know that you have a good and faithful lady or gentleman by your side? Here are 7 signs to look for.
1. THEY KNOW THERE’S MORE TO YOU THAN MEETS THE EYE
This will be a completely new feeling to you. They believe in you even when you don’t believe in yourself. This might feel strange to you given the fact that you’ve lost your self-esteem in your last relationship, but you can trust this person who makes you feel confident again. They know that you have the power to achieve anything you set your mind to, and that’s the kind of person everyone should have in their life.
2. THEY TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED
They are kind and loving to you all the time. They are doing things for you that no one has done for you. They are extremely caring, and you can always, always count on them.
3. THEY APOLOGIZE
Hearing someone else apologize might come as a shock to you having spent most of your life apologizing for things that you weren’t even guilty of doing just for the sake of avoiding arguments. Now, that emotional rollercoaster is finally over. Now, you have someone in your life who admits when they are wrong and are willing to compromise instead of playing the blame game with you.
4. THEY TRUST YOU AND WANT YOU TO TRUST THEM
They understand that you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship and that because of that you have trouble trusting people, especially a new person. They get it. They might’ve experienced the same thing as well. So, they know that it will take some time for you to overcome your trust issues, but they want to help you with the process. They want you to trust them that they will never do anything to hurt you.
5. THEY OFFER YOU THE WORLD
You are probably accustomed to always be the one going the extra mile and putting all the effort to make your relationship work. Well, guess what? Now you have a real partner. Someone who will reciprocate your feelings. Someone who will treat you like the queen or the kind of their heart. Without agenda. Without hidden motives. Without lies and manipulations. Out of pure love instead.
6. THEY ACTUALLY LISTEN TO YOU
Your last relationship was probably all about them. They were the ones making all the rules and doing all the talking. Not this time. Now, you are in a relationship when your voice is heard. You have a partner who actually gives a damn about what you have to say and listens to you with full attention.
7. THEY TEACH YOU WHAT TRUE LOVE IS
With this person, you are finally realizing what true love looks like. You realize that real love is based on mutual trust and respect. That true love requires equal give and take. It needs two emotionally stable and mature individuals who have made a decision to conquer the world together while at the same time loving each other fiercely.