If someone tells you that they don’t care at all about what others think of them, they’re lying. Everyone, no matter how confident they are, cares at least a small bit. However, some people take it too far. For those people, other people’s opinions can become a priority for them.
If that’s happened to you, your quality of life is probably suffering because of it. Here are 7 signs that you need to stop giving a damn about what other people think of you.
1. You Feel Guilty About Your Hobbies
Like everyone, you have some hobbies that not all your friends and family enjoy. Perhaps they’re even unusual or strange pastimes. Although they are things that you like, you don’t want others to know about them. That’s because you fear that people would judge you or think that you’re odd if they knew.
2. You Never Say “No”
If someone asks you to go for a drink with them, you’ll say yes. Similarly, if someone needs you to run an errand for them, you’ll agree to that as well. For whatever reason, you seem to be incapable of telling anyone “no”. The thought of it even makes you feel anxious too.
3. You Try To Please Everyone
You’ve begun to stretch yourself thin with how much you do for other people. Likewise, you do your best to be the person that you think they want you to be. As a result of that, you’ve become a social chameleon who can change to suit anyone.
4. You Plan Every Word You Say
Saying the wrong thing is an absolute nightmare for you. So, you make sure that that never happens by planning every single word that you’ll say. Before you respond to someone, you’ll need a moment to plan your answer. Along with that, you’ll sometimes even go as far as to plan whole conversations before they happen.
5. You Tell White Lies
In your mind, your opinions aren’t respected by the people around you. Because of that, you can find it difficult to open up and show the real you. This usually means that you often tell small lies about your beliefs on certain subjects. As well as that, you may also lie by omission.
6. You Put Yourself Last
One thing is for certain, you are not a selfish person. However, you take your selflessness to the extreme. You spend so much of your time focusing on other people and doing whatever you can to make them happy. Sadly, that often leaves you with no time left for yourself.
7. You Never Ask Anyone for Help
At some point, everyone will need the help of someone else. We can’t be experts in everything and it’s often useful to enlist the help of someone with more knowledge in certain areas. Despite this, you always try to do things by yourself. You worry that asking for assistance with anything will make you seem weak or incapable.
It can be hard to take a step back and really begin to look at how you’re living your life. Are you living it for yourself or for other people? If the answer for you is the latter, then it’s time for you to take a change. Stop worrying so much about what other people think and start worrying about you. This is your life, and no one else’s.
Do you know someone who cares too much about what other people think about them? If so, share this article with them to let them know that it’s time they changed that.
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