When it comes to toxic relationships, the biggest issue is that you might not be aware that you are in one. You will gradually get used to the abuse and the mistreatment that it will become your reality.
Toxic relationships are addictive because the abuser is like a drug to the victim. The abuser always knows when to give them attention and love to stop them from leaving, and then the exploitation and neglect continues. There are always “happy” moments and “sad” moments and that’s why it is so difficult for the victim to leave a toxic relationship.
If you are one of those brave souls who manage to find the courage and break down the chains of the toxic relationship they are in and free themselves – congratulations. You did something that most of us cannot and you’ve learned your lesson.
But, when you do meet a good and normal person after the abusive relationship, you may experience these things:
1. YOU’LL HAVE ALL THE SPACE AND SUPPORT YOU NEED TO START LOVING YOURSELF AGAIN
The first step you’ll have to take is to improve your relationship with yourself and start loving yourself again. Being in a relationship with a good person will make it easier for you. They will give you all the love and support you need to heal and feel like yourself again.
2. YOU’LL EXPECT THE SAME STORY TO HAPPEN ALL OVER AGAIN
After being ill-treated for so long, it’s normal that you’ve lost all the faith in people and humanity. You got your guard up to shield yourself from future pain by experiencing the same story again. You are scared to go through the same thing once again, so you are extremely careful with everyone, including the person who has a good heart and no intentions to hurt you.
3. YOU’LL START FEELING STRANGE
Because you’ve suffered for so long, now when you’ve met someone who actually cares about you and your feelings, you may start feeling weird and afraid. If you feel strange being in a good relationship, know that everything is okay and try to embrace all the positive things and feelings from it.
4. YOU’LL START OVERTHINKING AND OVERANALYZING EVERYTHING
Even though they treat you the way you’ve always wanted to be treated, you can’t stop overthinking. You are constantly overanalyzing everything they do, looking for hidden motives. Luckily, there aren’t any.
5. YOU’LL THINK THEY ARE TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE
Because you can’t help but think that something bad will happen in your relationship anytime. You expect them to lose their mask at any moment and show their true colors. You just can’t believe that you’ve met someone with a good heart after being with an abuser for so long.
6. YOU’LL BE STILL WAITING FOR “THE STORM”
You got used to the fights in your last toxic relationship because they came out of nowhere. So, you’ll always be on the edge, expecting a fight to start at any time. That’s why you can’t understand how with them everything is smooth sailing. Well, get used to it and enjoy your wonderful and healthy relationship with a good-hearted person by your side.