After investing your feelings, time, and energy into a relationship with someone, it can be really painful to discover that you have been investing in a wrong relationship that is not meant to be.
People decide to stay together for many reasons that may have nothing to do with love. Maybe they stay in the relationship because it is comfortable, maybe they stay for their children, or because they don’t want to inflict pain on their partner.
Whatever the reasons, a ‘fake’ relationship is a ‘fake’ relationship and no one should waste their time by being in this kind of a relationship. The realization that your partner doesn’t love you and they are only forcing themselves to feel something that is not there can be painful, but it is more painful to stay in a relationship for the wrong reasons.
If you are wondering whether your relationship is fake, look for these 6 clear signs.
1. YOU BECOME A DIFFERENT COUPLE IN PUBLIC
If someone tells you that they and their partner never argue – don’t believe them. Every healthy relationship has misunderstandings and conflicts because no two people are ever the same and have the same values and beliefs.
If you and your partner never argue, and you are only acting lovey-dovey in public while when you two are alone there is a significant drop in the love and affection you give to each other – then something is wrong in your relationship.
2. YOU DON’T HAVE ANY DEEP CONVERSATIONS
Small talk and shallow conversations are a major red flag. When a couple really loves each other, they don’t have any secrets. They share with their partner the things they would not share with anyone.
By talking about your dreams, hopes, values, your fears and your plans for the future with your partner, you build trust and a lasting bond between you. If, however, all you talk with your partner is about ordinary and superficial things like the weather, movies, or sports – it means that your partner (or you) don’t see a future with you.
3. YOU HARDLY EVER MEET AND DON’T HAVE THE URGE TO SEE EACH OTHER EITHER
When you are in a loving relationship you just can’t keep your hands away from each other. You would always try to make time to see your partner. Being with them makes you feel happy and loved and truly satisfied. It is a natural urge that you both have.
However, if you and your partner hardly ever see each other that is a red flag. If your partner has a problem and you are the last one to know, then Houston, we have a problem. That means that you are lacking connection and communication in your relationship, both of which are vital things for a lasting one.
4. THEY DON’T KNOW THE REAL YOU AND THEY DON’T WANT YOU TO KNOW THEM ON A DEEPER LEVEL
A relationship in which your partner doesn’t know crucial things about you and they are not interested to find out what made you the person you are today – is a relationship that is not a genuine one.
When we really love someone, we want to know everything about them. From what makes them cry to their philosophies on life. Also, we want to share our story with them. If your partner neither reveals things about them nor wants to know you on a deeper level, they don’t deserve you.
5. YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE WHEN YOU ARE WITH THEM
When you are in a relationship and you feel shy whenever you are with your partner, or you are always walking on eggshells around him, that is a bad sign.
In a right relationship, you must be comfortable to be yourself around your partner. Your partner must accept the real you – flaws and all. Anything other than that is not worthy of your time.
6. YOU DON’T SPEND ANY QUALITY TIME TOGETHER
In a right relationship, both partners enjoy spending time together. They are always looking to find new and exciting things to do that will make their relationship grow. By spending quality time together and doing things together, their bond strengthens, and the connection between them grows.
Contrary, when partners enjoy spending time alone and they don’t seem to even miss each other, then it doesn’t matter if they think that they love each other – they really don’t. They are in a bad relationship with a partner who is wrong for them.